Feeds:
Posts
Comments

Posts Tagged ‘teenagers’

Greetings and Salutations! One and All! I do hope that the week has been good for you so far!

Today I want to talk about the coming of a new day!

For those of us who are awake or partially awake, it has become difficult to navigate the energies and most of us have done beautifully!

It seems that the heaviness of these purges are going to kill us or make us want to kill ourselves.  It is in these moments when all of the tools you have been given throughout your lifetime have to be pulled from the magic bag of tricks.  When the world is falling apart around you for no apparently good reason that we turn to the one thing that can and will help. Our Creator.

I believe that in most cases we bring things to ourselves for our own growth and expansion, but too there have been times when I have been placed in very surreal experiences that had absolutely nothing to do with me but more to do with the people who had been placed in my life. In some instances that meant soul retrieval and soul rescue for those who had been captured in time and space and replaced with some other entity or entities controlling the body. Similar to a possession. Some would say this is time for me to be put into a looney bin and others quietly understand what it is I am talking about.

My life has taken me to the very lowest of lows being in the streets with the bums and the crazy folk, but it was there too that some of my brightest angels on earth were found and helped me navigate that reality so that I could survive. I have been what society would consider a success as well, making money hand over fist but not being responsible with it, not using it to help others. So it was taken away from me almost over night. I was then put in the streets with two children. I have lost it all and rebuilt it over 7 times so far in my life.  I am thankful for the good and the bad, even though in my human moments I have great difficulty in seeing those times as good things. I am still learning to not judge things including my own actions or the actions of others. I am learning to release the need for expectation and entitlement. Similar to the story of JOB in the christian teachings, the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, all is always for our highest good and we should be grateful for it all good and bad for if it was not for that Creator we would not exist. I believe that no matter the adversity that we endure in our lifetime, it is forgotten on the other side. What is left is the expanded consciousness and deeper love.

So it comes down to FAITH. Finding Answers In The Heart. For it is there in the heart where our creator, high self, guides, other aspects of ourselves in other realities I think they call them dopplegangers it all begins in that place in the heart that we hear them, feel them, experience or re-experience them. I would not allow the bird to go without food or shelter, why would you think I would want less for you? I know that my needs will be met. I know that the universe and that being I call God, loves me beyond any love any human being could possibly express. I have been with Him. I have felt him within me, my body mind and soul. I will only ever ultimately trust that being that resides in all things. People ask well what religion are you? I tell them I am all and none of them. They look at me like I am crazy. But I remember a time when this planet was still new when there was only ONE and nothing more. We all worked in harmony and loved our creations. Delighted in what we could create and did it with joy and love. The planet that I remember had love as it’s main frequency. Not to say that this planet is different, but certainly the frequencies are.

I have faith, even though I find myself in circumstances which would send the average person into a complete and total depression, even in my sadness I give thanks that the solutions be brought forth with ease and grace, and that it is perfect in all ways for all concerned and the good of all in general. I have FAITH that it will all work out just as it is supposed to for even if it is not what I may want or THINK is the right thing, I KNOW that the universe has got my back no matter what set of circumstances I find myself in. In a weird way there is peace in knowing that I still have to do my part but that the universe is there like a full orchestra to back me up on that stage of life.

Yes when it rains it pours, but bust out your seeds and water barrels and capture the moment and grow something beautiful when a new day dawns! Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death….he leadeth me to green pastures and cool waters….we all have to walk through that valley several hundred times in our lives. We choose to sit and have a picnic and camp out there, it’s like my son’s vice principal said to my son this morning, “There are two words which both begin with VIC…. do you know what those words are? Victim or Victor, which are you going to be? A victim who does nothing and takes apathy as their route in life and does nothing to move up or forward or you can be the Victor and walk through it and just do it!”  Words of wisdom from a woman who’s job was just cut because of budget cuts. She moved her whole family from Washington to Colorado and they cut her job! Inspirational coming from her. A great woman, mother and administrator, the district has their head on backwards for eliminating her position.

So as children or as adults, we all have those moments when life throws us a curve ball, if you are paying attention you can turn that into a grand slam or you can get hit in the head and wonder what happened.

I do all I can to help the universe make my life the greatest it can be, and people say even with all that you go through you always land on your feet and you always maintain a positive attitude. It is said that when we smile it releases serotonin and gives us a better outlook, so the fake it til you make it does work on a chemical level. I choose to be a VICTOR not a VICTIM to life or circumstance or people. I will walk through this valley and lay down by the cool waters. It is in the lack of acceptance that we suffer. The sooner we accept it the sooner we can stop asking why and ask instead what is the solution, what am I going to do with this? Ask and if you get no answer then trust that it is not time yet, the universe has not lined the perfect scenario up for you, you do your part, look for that job, go to school, be doing what you CAN in the moment, if there is nothing you can do more or do about another’s decision or a company going under, then do what you can …. clear your space, clear your thinking whatever that entails. Sometimes doing NOTHING is the answer. The universe wants you to rest and heal your body or spirit. The wisdom of silence. Saying nothing, walking away is the answer sometimes. No matter how much it hurts. It will be better. It has to, for as bad as things get there is always a rainbow after the storm, there is always a flower that blooms from the muddied grounds.

These are times of great change. We must be able to ride the waves and not let them crush us. Even in stormy waters and it feels like the gasps are fewer and further between. You become a stronger swimmer. Ride the waves as best you can, lean on each other and support one another for it is difficult for all, but we can bring it in with ease and grace by showing that to each other. Remember always what you put out you get back. Break things down to the core issues and not the symptoms. People react out of fear, what is the fear, address it. What can you do about it, what steps can you take to change it or make it different? You can do whatever you want to do, but it takes baby steps in that general direction to get there.

This time is about personality clean up and changing of perspectives, and the cool thing about that is that each new day brings a new opportunity for happiness and joy. Each new day gives us the chance to help another. Each new day we get to learn something new. Each new day we have the chance to laugh and smile.  There is a coming of a new day for you and I. Leave tomorrow for tomorrow. Do not let fear stop you from achieving your happiness. It serves no one and is a waste of the gift of life. Life is all about the Love. Happiness. Joy. Serenity. Peace.

Life is short. It can end or change in a split second. Don’t waste it. Fix it. Make it right. Love is all that matters. The great thing about it is you can do that right NOW, this second. Change your mind. Do something different. Don’t try, just do it. Because you can you know. It’s not that hard once you take the steps. Today is the new day! Right now! Right here! This moment! Make it count, make it memorable, make it great! If everyone is flipping out around you , that is their problem you can still be joyful with you. Pray that they too will come around and come back to you, for miracles never cease. Strange things happen in strange times. Love always finds it’s way back to itself. So do not look at the loss, look what you have, give thanks. Keep the faith, do your best to not panic and go to the other side of the valley. God takes care of us, we are all worthy and deserving of love from Him and each other. Let those who cannot do that go. Until they can stop thinking of themselves and begin to think of others as well. Do YOU! Do what YOU can and leave the rest to God. You will see that if you surrender it, it will work out ok. Promise. But you have to leave it there. Because every time you worry about it or think about it, you are taking it back and have to give it up again. So say thank you for you know its done.

Have a grand weekend everyone! I love you all !!! You make the journey fun!

Love n Light in Oneness of Heart,

Kimberly

Advertisements

Read Full Post »

Greetings and salutations one and all. Today I would like to focus on a very serious and growing problem with our young people today…. suicide, ptsd, bullying, and our schools.

There’s a lot of news in the headlines of late, how many people are flipping out for a multitude of reasons. I believe the magnetics has a lot to do with it. But too, so does our society.

One of the political banners I have carried over the years has been the issues within the schools. I have a special needs child who has fallen through the cracks of the system for years. If it had not been for my educating myself as to the laws and how their game is played, we would have never survived middle school!

I find it interesting that Mr. Obama is on the same track with the idea that too many of our children are dropping out of school and in extreme cases out of life. Teen suicide rates are up to an all time high right now. It is critical that we start getting in touch with our youth NOW! We need to get to the core issues of why this is happening before we an stop it, otherwise we are just treating symptoms, putting a bandaid on it and the main issues will recurring  until we deal with the core of the problem. Our children lack respect, they lack guidance because our generation doesn’t know what they are truly dealing with in these kids. How can we ask our children to display respect when most adults do not treat each other with respect? Even with our current president our adults are behaving in very hateful ways to each other, so really what do we expect from our children today ???


In the headlines just this month, a teacher walks on campus in Alabama and blows away several co workers before killing herself, a math teacher has to tackle a 35 year old gunman in Littleton, CO just last week, Boulder High had a bomb threat two weeks ago and a child in Mass kills himself behind bullying all of this after the columbine children brought to our attention the need for reform within our schools! Ladies and gentlemen, our schools, our children, are NOT SAFE! Budget cuts and school closures have increased classroom size, decreased funds for specialized schools and programs for these kids who do not fit into the mainstream. These are the troubled kids, the ones who cannot seem to find their niche, their place in life. Their parents and they turn to the school systems and mental health systems and social service systems for help and there is none there.

My own personal battle with a variety of school districts has got me hot under the collar about this issue of bullying in the schools. I am currently in that battle of my son and I vs. the school district over these very issues.

Indigo children, which most of the younger generation is, are here to tear down the systems and to make way for the crystals and rainbows to repair and rebuild. But indigos are not about repair. So for parents this is a challenge because they find themselves facing rearing a child who is wired as an entirely different creature then anything we have had to deal with before. They are gifted, they are highly intelligent,  yet appear lazy and mouthy often times. They are more angry and moody then the children of past generations due to their wiring designed to tear down systems that no longer work for the good of all concerned and prepared for the coming frequencies of the future. They lack motivation except for video games and rebelling against the machine so to speak. Why groups like Emo are created.  Yet they have their own unique ways of getting the system to change its ways. A slow process but effective.

So what we find is the new wave getting labeled ADD, ADHD, Bi-polar, Depressed, Etc. We surpress their great talents and subdue them so they are “manageable” killing their spirits with drugs they do not need like seroquil or ridalin  when Really what is happening with most of them is that they are sensitive (empathic), they come into this reality and density, they are not used to the body idea and they see the chaos all around and they are wired to want to tear it down and make it better. So because most of these young beings come from other universes and planets and have never been to 3d Earth, they struggle to fit into their new environment, and they learn differently then the children of the past, they require a more visual and tangible way of learning.

The problem with this is the schools have not changed their curriculum for teaching in over 60 years! This is why our children are failing because our system is failing to keep up not our kids!

These children, suffer the trauma of being human, they suffer because they are singled out in the social arenas at school and at home and they never seem to fit into the square little boxes people try to put them in. They are teased brutally and endlessly. As a result they often times develop PTSD symptoms and they either get reactive or they shut down. These children are the ones with no voice in this world. I for one have done my best to be a very active voice and bring light to this very dark matter.

Our children are committing suicide, having intimate relations and doing drugs and alcohol and getting addicted to violence and porn as a result of  prolonged pain from the unacceptance by their peers and family, their exposures to the net and video games and how society deals with these topics so openly. Kids today do not respond to “do as I say not as I do” discipline. We must be the example for these children in life. Most of the reactions these kids show are things that if the situation happened to an adult, we would react much the same way, but because they are kids, no one listens or it doesn’t apply to them? Really how does that work? We say respect is earned…. are we earning their respect by behaving in ugly ways?

Part of this shift is understanding there is no separation. This includes, kids and adults. Yes it is our job to guide them and teach them, they have their own path,  it is not theirs to be our slaves at home doing all the work, that should be a team effort or beating them into submission as many parents have been trained by their own upbringing, but to treat them as mini people, mini adults, the way you would want to be treated now,  because they are exposed to very adult things at a very young age, so to go with the old way of doing things, is doing a dis service to our youth in not preparing them for the real world. We shelter them and protect them but to do it too much so then turn them loose in the real world. This is where the depression comes in for young adults, so much pressure and culture shock,  they just fold emotionally. Hence the increased suicide rates.

We need to do something about this issue. Our drop out rates here in the United States is absolutely unacceptable. Our children are our most valuable commodity they are our future. We are failing them as a society placing a higher value on a ball players and actors then a teacher or school and we need to put action to this to make a change! Start attending your local school board meetings, talk to people who advocate for children and see what they can offer as advice to deal with the many issues that arise when your child falls into this void with no voice. There are laws in place which can be used to enforce the no bullying policies and if there are none where you live then I would write your local authorities, school superintendent and congress people and let them know you are “Mad as hell and you are not going to take it anymore!”

Nothing will change if we all think that someone else is dealing with this issue. I have for years wanted to form a coalition of parents, teachers and students to create their own lobbying group and start making some political noise about this issue. I encourage you to begin in your own neighborhood with the parents.  Not all kids are wired the same, we have to make a way to accommodate all children not just the 80% majority. No child should be left behind, on this point Mr. Bush and I agree. Change begins at home, start making some noise, contact local news places as you hear about these injustices in our district with these kids. The children and parents feel like it’s us against them and they learn quickly that the system is in need of change. So to you my audience, please get involved in this, get active and find out what your kids are dealing with at school. When we were 10 our biggest concerns were which bike or doll to play with, our kids today, deal with guns at school, gangs, drugs, sexting, by the time they are in fourth or fifth grade now! So look at their texts, look at their emails and IM conversations while playing games and what not on the computer, get nosey! Be proactive in preparing your kids because it starts much sooner then you would imagine. If your child is suffering from bullying contact your local truancy officers and court officials and ask what can be done to cease the issues. Take things to the next level and do not fear. For the only thing you have to fear is fear itself! Ok maybe apathy falls in with fear, apathy is our worst enemy in this country as I see it…

I will revisit this issue further later on down the line, sharing with you some of the issues people have run into with regard to this. Until next time! Peace, love and light!

Read Full Post »

I am pleased to announce that we now have this blog on audio! So you can listen to it even if you do not have time to read the entire blog! Enjoy! xox Kimberly 2/7/10.

Part II- Audio Blog

Part III-Audio Blog

***************************************************************

A perfect song for today’s topic. Love it!

Greetings and salutations one and all. It was not the weekend I had hoped it would be, I was ill for most of it, and missed the pow wow unfortunately. So I did some research for my up and coming show with Elizabeth Rose on OUR WORLDS on ZTalk radio. We are going to be discussing relationships. In preparing for this show, I really had forgotten how much there is to talk about this particular subject.

***

What is co-dependency? What is enabling? How do we become co – dependent?

These are some of the initial questions people have when you begin to discuss this topic. Much as other issues, in some circles this term is over used and so people have forgotten that it’s a serious issue in this country especially! MOST people have been involved in some form of dysfunctional relationship at some point in their lifetime. This is a condition which affects 75% of the people who end up in unhealthy relationships. It starts off all wonderful, (the honeymoon period), and then turns into something very different then a loving relationship.

I think one of the best explanations of this issue is explained in Mental Health America’s explanation of it. They outline they symptoms and affects in our lives.

They define it as , “Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. The disorder was first identified about ten years ago as the result of years of studying interpersonal relationships in families of alcoholics. Co-dependent behavior is learned by watching and imitating other family members who display this type of behavior.”

They go onto to say, “Dysfunctional families do not acknowledge that problems exist. They don’t talk about them or confront them. As a result, family members learn to repress emotions and disregard their own needs. They become “survivors.” They develop behaviors that help them deny, ignore, or avoid difficult emotions. They detach themselves. They don’t talk. They don’t touch. They don’t confront. They don’t feel. They don’t trust. The identity and emotional development of the members of a dysfunctional family are often inhibited.”

“Attention and energy focus on the family member who is ill or addicted. The co-dependent person typically sacrifices his or her needs to take care of a person who is sick. When co-dependents place other people’s health, welfare and safety before their own, they can lose contact with their own needs, desires, and sense of self.”

This is the crux of the situation, as the Mental Health America see it, you can spot co dependency in these characteristics:

Co-dependents have low self-esteem and look for anything outside of themselves to make them feel better. They find it hard to “be themselves.” Some try to feel better through alcohol, drugs or nicotine – and become addicted. Others may develop compulsive behaviors like workaholism, gambling, or indiscriminate sexual activity.  They have good intentions. They try to take care of a person who is experiencing difficulty, but the caretaking becomes compulsive and defeating. Co-dependents often take on a martyr’s role and become “benefactors” to an individual in need. A wife may cover for her alcoholic husband; a mother may make excuses for a truant child; or a father may “pull some strings” to keep his child from suffering the consequences of delinquent behavior.  The problem is that these repeated rescue attempts allow the needy individual to continue on a destructive course and to become even more dependent on the unhealthy caretaking of the “benefactor.” As this reliance increases, the co-dependent develops a sense of reward and satisfaction from “being needed.” When the caretaking becomes compulsive, the co-dependent feels choiceless and helpless in the relationship, but is unable to break away from the cycle of behavior that causes it. Co-dependents view themselves as victims and are attracted to that same weakness in the love and friendship relationships.”

There is so much more information out there on this topic! I would encourage everyone to read this article! Very informative and I am sure you will see someone you know in this description or possibly yourself.

****

My input is this:

Why is loving self first so very important. – Religion teaches us the wrong thing, to love others before ourselves. The Truth is that if you love Creator/God/Goddess/Allah, you MUST love yourself first because IT resides within us! To deny ourselves is to deny Spirit! The greatest blasphemy of all, the one adam and eve committed, they walked away from God by doubting themselves and feeling shame. We are doing the same by not honoring and loving ourselves and the spirit within us in our hearts. So it is not SELFISH to love ourselves, it’s SELF Centered, meaning centered within ourselves. Not that we are the only one in our own universe exclusive from all else in existence type of Self Centered.

How do we get to this point? – Again how we are raised contributes a lot to how we are programmed. I use the word programmed because that is what it is. We are living bio computers, who are programmed and as such we have the ability to CHANGE that program within ourselves.

How do we get out?- The first step is to look at yourself honestly. My daddy used to tell me, wherever you are , there you are! and he also used to tell me and still does, “there are somethings you admit to the whole world, then there are those things which you only entrust to a select few, then there are those things which we would never tell a soul, then there are the things we cannot accept and admit to ourselves, and therein is where our sickness lies”. My daddy is a very wise man! Words of wisdom from those who have been here longer then I are always a better way to learn. So it begins with the one in the mirror. Louise Hay who is one of my personal heros, taught us that how we see ourselves directly reflects in ailments later on in the body. One of her techniques to loving yourself is looking in the mirror and telling yourself you love you and really mean it. NOT an easy thing at first. The other suggestion she makes is to do positive affirmations.

Home is where the heart is, and if we do not take care of ourselves then who will? -We are always striving to get home, what does this mean?- Home is love. Where we feel safe and at peace enough to let our hair down and be ourselves. So wherever you are there you are, home is wherever you are!

What steps to take when we are learning to love ourselves again??. -Do things that used to bring you joy as a child. Getting in touch with your inner child is critical in the healing process of becoming whole again. Coloring in coloring books is a great therapy for people who are learning to get in touch with themselves again. Blowing bubbles or flying a kite or going for an ice cream CONE instead of a bowl! These may seem like small things, but seeing life through the eyes of a child is a good first step to work towards.

DO YOU! Break the cycles of co dependence strive for self empowerment and INDEPENDENCE.~

Co dependence is a condition that plagues many here in the united states. It is one of the number one conditions in most relationships today. People who are trying to fill something outside of themselves get locked into these types of relationships on a regular basis. They take on many forms, addiction, abuse, isolation and much more. We get into the mode of not loving ourselves feeling like we deserve that on some level and so we stay put even when it’s detrimental to our well being. It drains the heart and the spirit. When we are around negative people of any kind they are stealing our energy and so we are left drained, if we do not put it back then we are leaving the door open for other more serious issues down the road. Apathy and accepting or settling for less is one of the common results. People get so focused on the other person that they forget they have their own life to live and a duty to themselves to stay healthy and happy. Therein is the rub. If we do not believe in ourselves this is a very difficult step. So how does one begin to break the cycle? Well as we have already mentioned loving yourself and believing you are lovable and deserving of love is part of it. For guys, the bigger issue is learning to love at all.

Most men are taught that love is a weakness and something that is not to be desired, love is about conquest not partnership, that being emotional or vulnerable is a bad thing. Understand the opposite sex and how they think becomes important to understand and know. Men go their caves to work out emotional stuff, women we have to talk about it with everyone around us. A very key difference that most women or men do not get even about themselves. So learning to communicate again in a better way is part of this process. When you get the urge to jump in and save someone because they are not behaving in a rational or appropriate manner, wanting to FIX them or the problem at hand, we have to learn to let them learn on their own. Allow them to go off and do what they do because that is who they are right now! Most of us get locked into what could be if only….. how many times have you heard that! Setting goals, there’s nothing wrong with that, and working toward them fine, but to live as if it’s going to happen over night, is an unreasonable standard. Learning to not expect things from people, is another key thing. When we expect people to behave or respond a certain way, we are trying to control the outcome. We usually will get just the opposite if that is where our thinking is. Thus setting ourselves up for disappointment. We then get into the victim/martyr syndrome and so the cycle begins of not loving ourselves enough to break it. So learning to communicate our boundries to people we love, which will often times result in a lash out from those closest to us. But will eventually turn itself around, this can take years in some instances.

Some ideas to take the first steps:

Take up a hobby in your spare time. Do reading, or writing, or running or charity work, something to occupy your own time. The more you keep your own world and interests, the less you will be thinking of the bad stuff or the other person, and when you do meet someone you enjoy, you will have something to share, to offer to help you both grow and keep the love lines flowing. Most relationships become stagnant because we come to a point where we feel we have given everything but what happened to me in the process, we lose ourselves in others definitions of what we should be, mom , dad, brother , sister, whipping post, scapegoat, doesnt matter which position it is, it’s still not US and who we are inside really. In giving too much of ourselves up this is a common result. So do you, what makes you happy, what brings you joy, without another person being involved, learning to enjoy your own company is key as well. All baby steps, do not push yourself too hard or you will feel overwhelmed and not want to continue the process voluntarily, I say this because once you start , there really is no turning back.

Make a list and check it twice. – Make a list of the perfect things ideally you would want in your mate. Then check yourself against that list. Are YOU all of those things? If your answer is NO, then you are not ready for a serious committed relationship. Because you are seeking those qualities outside yourself. Secondly- Check that list against the ones who have been in your life, how did they match up to the list. If they didn’t what qualities are you willing to work around or compromise on , can live with?  Then what qualities you cannot stand, ones you cannot compromise or live with. Do the same for friends, what is a friend to you? What does that look like. Are you a friend to others? (be totally honest). Putting the various relationships up on the board, look for patterns, you will see what the programming is that they feed. This is part of learning to be responsible for the things which happen in our lives. We often bring people to be the mirror to look at these very things. Most people just do not know where to start. So making a list is a great tangible way to look at yourself and your life and relationships honestly. People talk about writing a journal this could be part of that journey.

The greatest love affair you could ever have is one with yourself! – you have all you need within you to be a whole person. The question is are you willing to do the work it takes to achieve that especially if there are challenges, fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, fear of being alone, fear of success. These are all challenges we come to the table with in our lives, overcoming them, having the understanding and knowing that you survived it, only feeds the fire to love yourself. Confidence is not exaggerated ego, the way some would see it or you. So love you!

It takes two whole people who compliment one another to make a lasting relationship. 1+1=2 NOT 1 like all the songs and propaganda would have you believe. Get back to basics. Fireproof the movie and book lay a great way to achieve this for couples who have been together awhile. We are NOT our story, or anyone else’s. We have the power to change ourselves, how we see things makes a big difference. Looking at ourselves is HARD work! But so worth the journey and the destination. How can you hope to find love if you do not know it exists within you always!

Respect, common courtesy communication- we get so lost in our corporate / survival mentalities we forget these very basic things in our relationships and interactions with people.You have to give without expectation of something in return. The laws of cause and effect, Law of Attraction, The Golden Rule, all tell you the natural result, but expectation will attract the Law of Opposites.

The art of courtship ….. People have forgotten to take the time to get to know each other before hopping into bed together and making babies. Take the time to get to know the person and watch them move through changes so you can more accurately compare that list you made. Allow that person to become a trusted friend before you talk about love. Yes you can have attraction , even soul recognition and perhaps this is a person who destined for you for a time, but if you base your relationships on that type of feeling , chances are you will not survive as a couple. So taking the time to get to know each other and compare your lists for a perfect mate see where they line up and where they do not, see if you can compromise in the areas which are not perfect, if there are too many negatives and not enough positives, if both people are not shoulder to shoulder walkin gin the same direction then you are setting yourself up for failure. (feeding old tapes you are not good enough) So learning to be friends and taking the time to allow that without the complication of hormones in sex, be celibate and learn to LIKE the other person. We can love someone to bits and not like them!and not be able to live with them. My daddy said to me, “If you can be friends for five years and endure all the changes people go through in that amount of time, you have a good shot at the marriage lasting!” I say friends first, last and always.

Can you commit to yourself, the way you commit to everyone else you love? – I challenge you the audience to do this, make a commitment to yourself to do something loving and good for yourself daily for thirty days. See what results you get from yourself, your thinking and the people around you.

I dare ya to! I double dog dare ya! Giggles!

Those were excerpts from my notes for the show on Wednesday on OUR WORLDS with Elizabeth Rose on Ztalkradio.com 5-7pm EST.

Here are a few YOUTUBES on the topic you might find helpful as well.

I liked her message to the younger generation didn’t you?

If you think that you have these issues, I recommend you research it, see many perspectives. Seek help. Co-Dependents Anonymous (CODA), Adult Children of Alcoholics, or a professional family counselor. There is no shame in exploring one’s self!

I do hope you found some interesting and useful information in this blog entry. Please send in questions on this topic to Illuminationsoflight@yahoo.com. We will be answering questions LIVE on Wed too! Numbers to call..

Until next time! Peace, Love and Joy! xoxo Kimberly


Read Full Post »