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Greetings and Salutations One and All! I do hope that this blog finds you all well and happy! Well it’s been quite a week for me lots of obstacles and challenges presented themselves to me! But with each one I give gratitude for the opportunity to grow! This week’s show features an amazing man whom I met through a mutual friend. For almost an hour he and I chatted and he truly is a pioneer in his field. And is breaking ground in some pretty amazing territory with his teachings! So we are truly pleased and honored to bring him to you all tonight on Illuminations of Light LIVE! 8pm PST and 9pm MST on blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight! here is a bit more about this amazing man and his work!

About James Strohecker

 

An e-health pioneer and wellness visionary, Strohecker has focused on bringing fundamental wellness principles from the world’s great healing and wellbeing traditions into mainstream cultural awareness for over 30 years.  Currently, his focus is on stimulating the creation of a “Culture of Wellness” in the U.S. and supporting the dissemination of wellness worldwide.

 

CEO and co-founder of HealthWorld Online, he is co-creator of Healthy.net (www.healthy.net), the world’s first Internet network for wellness and alternative medicine, the Wellness Inventory whole-person assessment and life-balance program (www.WellPeople.com) and the Wellness Inventory Coach Certification Training (www.CertifyWellness.com). He is on the faculty for the Wellness Inventory Certification Training, as well as the faculty of the Institute for Life Coach Training.  He also co-founded NPICenter.com, the first business-to-business Internet network for the natural products industry.

 

As founding Vice-President of Future Medicine Publishing,

he served as Executive Editor of the classic and influential work, Alternative Medicine: The Definitive Guide. Co-author

of five books, including Natural Healing for Depression: Solutions from the World’s Great Health Traditions and Practitioners  (Perigee), and has collaborated on over 20 titles in the fields of natural health, human potential, meditation,

yoga and world spiritual traditions. He is also publisher of Healthy Update, a weekly e-newsletter serving over 30,000 subscribers for fifteen years.

 

A Phi Beta Kappa graduate of the University of Tennessee with a degree in cultural anthropology, his interests have taken him from National Geographic-funded archeological expeditions to Mayan ruins in the jungles of Yucatan, to three years of intensive study of meditation, self-inquiry, and yoga in India.

 

Strohecker has served on the numerous boards, including the Board of Trustees of the American University of Complementary Medicine and the Institute of Natural Medicine, the President’s Advisory Council for Bastyr University, as well as serving on numerous advisory boards including Nourish America, Academy for Guided Imagery, the Dove Health Alliance, the National Workforce Health Economics Summit, and the National Wellness, Prevention and Fitness Conference. He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council of Southern California.

 

He lives in Los Angeles with Nancy, his wife of 22 years.

Contact Info:

James Strohecker

CEO / Co-founder

HealthWorld Online

310-823-9553

jim@healthy.net

 

Here’s another article about John and his work:

From Alternative Medicine a Definitive Guide to the Wellness Inventory – An Interview with Pioneering Entrepreneur Jim Strohecker

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Greetings and Salutations! One and All! It’s a Happy Day today! We are continuing our series on relationships with today’s entry discussing the crazy and intricate world of internet dating. I have been a part of this world for several years now and I have learned a few tips of the game which I am going to share with you here today. Also to enlighten you as to how the game is played. There are new rules to the dating game with the introduction of the technological world.

So you think you are ready right? You get your hair done up and your make up on and you go out and get the perfect picture or set of pictures and you post them on your profile just knowing in your heart that you are going to meet Prince Charming and you are going to be romanced out of your mind! Finally the long days of waiting are over and you are going to find your one and he is going to find you! The anticipation is crippling and you anxiously await some response from the one who is going to find you and you are met with ” Yummy” , ” Nice Tits” , ” You sure are purty” , and suddenly you realize you are not in the land of prince charmings but in the land of relationship rejects and applicants! There is someone for everyone I truly believe for some of us there are hundreds for one. I myself have been blessed with a gift of some odd sex appeal that keeps the men flocking in all shapes and forms and class levels.

I began to notice this gift when I was five, that is another story as to how I came to this realization but I have been aware of it since that age. I never felt comfortable with it, nor did I understand it back then, as no one seemed to want to discuss it let alone look at it with me. What this gift is many have. It’s tantric in nature, but healing in fact, it’s the ability to open hearts via the root chakra. This creates a feeling of love for the person on the receiving end. An undeniable attraction that will not quiet itself. They cannot get you out of their head, they are dreaming about you and having these unusual feelings of desire. The ones that make it to a kiss most end up being chiwawas shaking in their boots. The energy from the kiss was too much and they would go into shakes.

I often wonder as I am enduring these seemingly never ending lines of people that are so not in the running to being the perfect mate for me. Now some would argue, perhaps you have your sights too high. But you see I believe that on a vibratory level, I am not, I vibrate fairly high and am awake, there must be out of 6 billion people on this planet at least a few that have all of the qualities I seek . Then the universe does things like bring you the perfect person except that they are not available. The irony of the universe is uncanny at times.

So yes after several years in the dating game, I have begun to lose hope and energy to go through the process of interviewing the thousands of applicants I have reviewed in the past several years. This my friends is not an exaggeration. For every time I put up pictures there is usually a thousand hits in the month and for out of that thousand there is probably 10 a week that will make some attempt to contact you, out of that 10 you might actually want to meet with one. Dating has become more of an interviewing process. This is why I call them applicants. They are applying for the job of mate and they have to meet certain qualifications within the time that we have to chat. Most are easily gone through by simply telling them you are celibate, the others will leave if you tell them you want a relationship and marriage so this technique weeds through the one night stands and the looky loos. They are my favorites the silent watchers who add you as a favorite and never attempt to contact you ever. Who does that!?

Advice to catching a man, keep your profile interesting and always change your pics, guys are visual creatures and like to see new and different looks on a woman. No guy wants to hear about an ex or what you are not looking for so try to always keep it on a positive note.

Always remember that no matter how great they may seem on cam, in a private conversation or on the phone, unless you meet them face to face it is only a fantasy! I cannot stress enough this particular fact. It is easy when you are lonely to get wrapped up in the dream in the fantasy in the potential of a person. This is not to say that all are like this however the majority are. People think that they can be whatever they want as this box within a box doesn’t represent a person there an anonymity that goes along with this protection. People can be whatever they want when they are not being seen! There are many wolves in sheep’s clothing in the virtual world, people who will promise you the world, even propose to you infront of others and then simply disappear. They can lie about their names, their lives and what they truly are offering. Most men act like vultures when they are online. Most women too. The best advice that I can offer is to keep things light, to keep it business friendly until you meet this person face to face. Energies can and DO react differently in person, so until those same fireworks are there in real time, keep it realisitic to avoid disappointments down the line. Is this to say that internet dating is always like this? No but it’s important that you clearly communicate and investigate these people in real time. I have known of women who were raped and men who were ripped off financially because they did not follow this rule. Find out who you are dealing with. Meet in a public place for a first date always! Coffee shops or tea houses are great for the “initial interview”. I cannot tell you how often people walk out on this step, they won’t even approach you! I had one guy meet me at my house and walk right past me, get in his car and left! Another guy at the coffee shop the same thing! Manners is VERY important! If someone is going to take the time to meet with you, have the courtesy to follow through and let them know it is not going to work for whatever reason but at least follow through on the interview!

If you have any doubts then follow up on that! Find out either via investigation report going to public records there are ways to find out if someone is married or divorced, if they have a criminal record, basically the type of person they are in real time. If they do not want to meet after a month or so of email/phone communication that is usually an indication that there is something they are trying to hide. This is a flag so head that and look further then the butterflies in the heart.

Make sure that you see them on cam not just in photos. I had one friend who traveled from Oregon to Oklahoma based on a photo that had been taken 20 years before and when she got to the airport the person looked nothing like that anymore!

I know for most this seems like common sense stuff, but I have seen this enough to know that not everyone thinks like this because they inherently trust that most people are going to be what they say they are. I cannot tell you how many people I have watched and myself experienced how scandalous people can truly be, how they will prey on the innocent and create wounds that are to the core of people’s beings. I have also seen marriage work out even long distance ones from meeting on the net. It’s a roll of the dice and in today’s world anything is. I can only stress to be cautious and take precautions. Don’t meet alone, be in public, don’t give your home address to anyone you have not gone on several dates with and investigated thoroughly. Do not meet with anyone who will not show a picture or cam with you live. Run if they begin to discuss marriage and love within 30 days. This is usually an indicator that they are co dependent and clingy, watch the body language to determine if they are liars or secret keepers, this can get tricky because if a liar is good enough they will believe their own lies and thus making it difficult to recognize. Be friends with someone before you jump in the sack. Get to know them.

One night stands will only fulfill a physical itch and even that is not filled because it’s the intimacy not the sex we lack.

Do not get discouraged. Being on dating sites is not desperate. It’s business smart. You are increasing your odds by putting yourself out there. Just keep in mind the world is watching! People can video tape you on cam, they can steal your pics to be used in other arenas there are many bad people out there so use the better part of caution.

I’m sure there are many of you out there who have experienced much of what I am talking about and to you know that you are not alone, it is for those who may not have been out there in the jungle much and who have had trepidations about the unknown. Its really not too bad out there and I have met some incredible people and friends through the dating process. I have moved to totally new areas in the past 10 years and this has helped me get to know my community and the people in it and what it has to offer. I think that casual dating is healthy and can be a great deal of fun if one uses common sense and safety precautions.

I think this is a great place to stop this blog and ask you to submit your thoughts on this topic or your suggestions for how to make it a better experience for those who are in the game. Be blessed now and always everyone!

Peace xox Kimberly

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