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Greetings and Salutations One and All! I do hope that this blog finds you all well and happy! Well it’s been quite a week for me lots of obstacles and challenges presented themselves to me! But with each one I give gratitude for the opportunity to grow! This week’s show features an amazing man whom I met through a mutual friend. For almost an hour he and I chatted and he truly is a pioneer in his field. And is breaking ground in some pretty amazing territory with his teachings! So we are truly pleased and honored to bring him to you all tonight on Illuminations of Light LIVE! 8pm PST and 9pm MST on blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight! here is a bit more about this amazing man and his work!

About James Strohecker

 

An e-health pioneer and wellness visionary, Strohecker has focused on bringing fundamental wellness principles from the world’s great healing and wellbeing traditions into mainstream cultural awareness for over 30 years.  Currently, his focus is on stimulating the creation of a “Culture of Wellness” in the U.S. and supporting the dissemination of wellness worldwide.

 

CEO and co-founder of HealthWorld Online, he is co-creator of Healthy.net (www.healthy.net), the world’s first Internet network for wellness and alternative medicine, the Wellness Inventory whole-person assessment and life-balance program (www.WellPeople.com) and the Wellness Inventory Coach Certification Training (www.CertifyWellness.com). He is on the faculty for the Wellness Inventory Certification Training, as well as the faculty of the Institute for Life Coach Training.  He also co-founded NPICenter.com, the first business-to-business Internet network for the natural products industry.

 

As founding Vice-President of Future Medicine Publishing,

he served as Executive Editor of the classic and influential work, Alternative Medicine: The Definitive Guide. Co-author

of five books, including Natural Healing for Depression: Solutions from the World’s Great Health Traditions and Practitioners  (Perigee), and has collaborated on over 20 titles in the fields of natural health, human potential, meditation,

yoga and world spiritual traditions. He is also publisher of Healthy Update, a weekly e-newsletter serving over 30,000 subscribers for fifteen years.

 

A Phi Beta Kappa graduate of the University of Tennessee with a degree in cultural anthropology, his interests have taken him from National Geographic-funded archeological expeditions to Mayan ruins in the jungles of Yucatan, to three years of intensive study of meditation, self-inquiry, and yoga in India.

 

Strohecker has served on the numerous boards, including the Board of Trustees of the American University of Complementary Medicine and the Institute of Natural Medicine, the President’s Advisory Council for Bastyr University, as well as serving on numerous advisory boards including Nourish America, Academy for Guided Imagery, the Dove Health Alliance, the National Workforce Health Economics Summit, and the National Wellness, Prevention and Fitness Conference. He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council of Southern California.

 

He lives in Los Angeles with Nancy, his wife of 22 years.

Contact Info:

James Strohecker

CEO / Co-founder

HealthWorld Online

310-823-9553

jim@healthy.net

 

Here’s another article about John and his work:

From Alternative Medicine a Definitive Guide to the Wellness Inventory – An Interview with Pioneering Entrepreneur Jim Strohecker

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Greetings and Salutations! One and All! It’s a Happy Day today! We are continuing our series on relationships with today’s entry discussing the crazy and intricate world of internet dating. I have been a part of this world for several years now and I have learned a few tips of the game which I am going to share with you here today. Also to enlighten you as to how the game is played. There are new rules to the dating game with the introduction of the technological world.

So you think you are ready right? You get your hair done up and your make up on and you go out and get the perfect picture or set of pictures and you post them on your profile just knowing in your heart that you are going to meet Prince Charming and you are going to be romanced out of your mind! Finally the long days of waiting are over and you are going to find your one and he is going to find you! The anticipation is crippling and you anxiously await some response from the one who is going to find you and you are met with ” Yummy” , ” Nice Tits” , ” You sure are purty” , and suddenly you realize you are not in the land of prince charmings but in the land of relationship rejects and applicants! There is someone for everyone I truly believe for some of us there are hundreds for one. I myself have been blessed with a gift of some odd sex appeal that keeps the men flocking in all shapes and forms and class levels.

I began to notice this gift when I was five, that is another story as to how I came to this realization but I have been aware of it since that age. I never felt comfortable with it, nor did I understand it back then, as no one seemed to want to discuss it let alone look at it with me. What this gift is many have. It’s tantric in nature, but healing in fact, it’s the ability to open hearts via the root chakra. This creates a feeling of love for the person on the receiving end. An undeniable attraction that will not quiet itself. They cannot get you out of their head, they are dreaming about you and having these unusual feelings of desire. The ones that make it to a kiss most end up being chiwawas shaking in their boots. The energy from the kiss was too much and they would go into shakes.

I often wonder as I am enduring these seemingly never ending lines of people that are so not in the running to being the perfect mate for me. Now some would argue, perhaps you have your sights too high. But you see I believe that on a vibratory level, I am not, I vibrate fairly high and am awake, there must be out of 6 billion people on this planet at least a few that have all of the qualities I seek . Then the universe does things like bring you the perfect person except that they are not available. The irony of the universe is uncanny at times.

So yes after several years in the dating game, I have begun to lose hope and energy to go through the process of interviewing the thousands of applicants I have reviewed in the past several years. This my friends is not an exaggeration. For every time I put up pictures there is usually a thousand hits in the month and for out of that thousand there is probably 10 a week that will make some attempt to contact you, out of that 10 you might actually want to meet with one. Dating has become more of an interviewing process. This is why I call them applicants. They are applying for the job of mate and they have to meet certain qualifications within the time that we have to chat. Most are easily gone through by simply telling them you are celibate, the others will leave if you tell them you want a relationship and marriage so this technique weeds through the one night stands and the looky loos. They are my favorites the silent watchers who add you as a favorite and never attempt to contact you ever. Who does that!?

Advice to catching a man, keep your profile interesting and always change your pics, guys are visual creatures and like to see new and different looks on a woman. No guy wants to hear about an ex or what you are not looking for so try to always keep it on a positive note.

Always remember that no matter how great they may seem on cam, in a private conversation or on the phone, unless you meet them face to face it is only a fantasy! I cannot stress enough this particular fact. It is easy when you are lonely to get wrapped up in the dream in the fantasy in the potential of a person. This is not to say that all are like this however the majority are. People think that they can be whatever they want as this box within a box doesn’t represent a person there an anonymity that goes along with this protection. People can be whatever they want when they are not being seen! There are many wolves in sheep’s clothing in the virtual world, people who will promise you the world, even propose to you infront of others and then simply disappear. They can lie about their names, their lives and what they truly are offering. Most men act like vultures when they are online. Most women too. The best advice that I can offer is to keep things light, to keep it business friendly until you meet this person face to face. Energies can and DO react differently in person, so until those same fireworks are there in real time, keep it realisitic to avoid disappointments down the line. Is this to say that internet dating is always like this? No but it’s important that you clearly communicate and investigate these people in real time. I have known of women who were raped and men who were ripped off financially because they did not follow this rule. Find out who you are dealing with. Meet in a public place for a first date always! Coffee shops or tea houses are great for the “initial interview”. I cannot tell you how often people walk out on this step, they won’t even approach you! I had one guy meet me at my house and walk right past me, get in his car and left! Another guy at the coffee shop the same thing! Manners is VERY important! If someone is going to take the time to meet with you, have the courtesy to follow through and let them know it is not going to work for whatever reason but at least follow through on the interview!

If you have any doubts then follow up on that! Find out either via investigation report going to public records there are ways to find out if someone is married or divorced, if they have a criminal record, basically the type of person they are in real time. If they do not want to meet after a month or so of email/phone communication that is usually an indication that there is something they are trying to hide. This is a flag so head that and look further then the butterflies in the heart.

Make sure that you see them on cam not just in photos. I had one friend who traveled from Oregon to Oklahoma based on a photo that had been taken 20 years before and when she got to the airport the person looked nothing like that anymore!

I know for most this seems like common sense stuff, but I have seen this enough to know that not everyone thinks like this because they inherently trust that most people are going to be what they say they are. I cannot tell you how many people I have watched and myself experienced how scandalous people can truly be, how they will prey on the innocent and create wounds that are to the core of people’s beings. I have also seen marriage work out even long distance ones from meeting on the net. It’s a roll of the dice and in today’s world anything is. I can only stress to be cautious and take precautions. Don’t meet alone, be in public, don’t give your home address to anyone you have not gone on several dates with and investigated thoroughly. Do not meet with anyone who will not show a picture or cam with you live. Run if they begin to discuss marriage and love within 30 days. This is usually an indicator that they are co dependent and clingy, watch the body language to determine if they are liars or secret keepers, this can get tricky because if a liar is good enough they will believe their own lies and thus making it difficult to recognize. Be friends with someone before you jump in the sack. Get to know them.

One night stands will only fulfill a physical itch and even that is not filled because it’s the intimacy not the sex we lack.

Do not get discouraged. Being on dating sites is not desperate. It’s business smart. You are increasing your odds by putting yourself out there. Just keep in mind the world is watching! People can video tape you on cam, they can steal your pics to be used in other arenas there are many bad people out there so use the better part of caution.

I’m sure there are many of you out there who have experienced much of what I am talking about and to you know that you are not alone, it is for those who may not have been out there in the jungle much and who have had trepidations about the unknown. Its really not too bad out there and I have met some incredible people and friends through the dating process. I have moved to totally new areas in the past 10 years and this has helped me get to know my community and the people in it and what it has to offer. I think that casual dating is healthy and can be a great deal of fun if one uses common sense and safety precautions.

I think this is a great place to stop this blog and ask you to submit your thoughts on this topic or your suggestions for how to make it a better experience for those who are in the game. Be blessed now and always everyone!

Peace xox Kimberly

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Greetings and salutations! One and All! I do hope this blog entry finds you well and happy. It has been a crazy week for me on a personal level as well as the professional level. But I wanted to keep the momentum going with this entry of our blog series on relationships. We have covered in past entries the ideas of co dependence and independence, however, we have never covered the idea of inter-dependence. This is a new term that I created to explain the concept of a partnership. These ideas that I am discussing are uni-sexual and universal. They can be applied to any relationship in existence. The reason that I feel it is necessary to create this new concept is that we are moving towards this with the shifts that are coming. How do we put action to making it “we” and not “me”. How do we take the first steps to becoming community minded again instead of overly independent and isolated?

I do not think that I have all the answers or all the parts but I can see how some of it can work. So I only ask that you read these ideas with an open mind and expand on them if you are so inspired and share those thoughts with the world. Leave a comment. I respond to all legitimate comments. So moving onto the concepts first.

Community to my definition is this: ” A gathering of beings working in harmony and cooperation with one another.”

I see this as the third phase if you will because really it begins within yourself and extends to your immediate friends and families and thus it naturally evolves to a community. There are many communities large and small. It’s not the size that matters in this instance. The idea behind a “community” is to work together in cooperation. Now this sounds really great in theory and in an ideal world that would work. It takes a solid commitment of common thinking to make something like this work. For example. Terminology. People as wonderfully different as they are will look at something and have a totally different take on what it is they see. The same idea holds true when they describe things. How often have you said to another person, “that’s not what I meant!” So definition of terms is imperative to healthy communication.

Cooperation: We have learned over the course of the past few millennia to be competative not cooperative with one another. In this shift which is coming there needs to be a cooperation between ourselves and the world around us. Money or it’s concept no longer serves us. I do not have all of the answers but what I do know is that there is no good reason that there are people who are lacking anything in this world. There is enough resources on this planet to sustain 100 billion people if we all worked together to balance that out.

Courtesy/Manners/Respect- People in this age of “Me”, have forgotten some very basic things in life. That people are people for one and for another, that we should treat others the way we would wish to be treated. With kindness, compassion, understanding, tolerance, respect. Words like ” I’m sorry” or “Thank you” or ” Please” go a long ways. Remembering that coming at someone offensively will cause the reactions of defensive manuevers. That a man’s word is golden, if you say you are going to do something then follow through with it, and if something should come up then communicate that with the person you made the promise to.

Communication: Talking, Texting, Writing letters, Computers, Telephones, Smoke signals. Throughout time man has found many creative ways to communicate what is in one’s head. From hieroglyphs to artwork of all kinds and music and story telling and tapestry to architecture and technology. We have found many ways to communicate with each other because we as human beings are communal creatures. We are social. We enjoy the interaction with others around us. We have lost the gift of mind reading which was our original forms of communication. We lost that ability when we fell into the third dimension. As part of the awakening and remembering, this gift is slowly being restored. Thus the words of Christ, “And the darkness shall come to the light, there will be no more secrets, no more lies…” because if we can read each other’s thoughts we have no way or place to “hide” anything. That is an illusion.

To live as two individuals, loving unconditionally in the present moment and working toward a common good is not an easy combination to find. There is a fine balance in inter-dependence. When you are in a partnership, the advantages are that you are not alone, if one falls short in an area the other can assist in making that up with their strengths. This is different then two people as one. We all have our paths and lessons in life. To release judgments and expectations can be a challenge for many. To release the need to control anything is also a challenge for most people. We do not realize how often we come from a place of needing to control people and situations. We must become cognoscente of these times when we are falling into emotional reactions and old programming. It is helpful if you are involved with another who is of like mind so that you may help each other in the recognition of when you are playing the old tapes. The old saying of ” You are the company you keep” holds some truth to it. For what you surround yourself with or feed into your mind is what is in your heart and eventually comes out of the mouth and it feeds like a perpetual circle. So the way to break free from this cycle is to change the response and change the environment and change the input in general. Surround yourself with things that are going to help you achieve your goal of peace and tranquility on a constant basis. Surrounding yourself with positive people is a start. Listening to soothing music instead of angry music is another place that we can change what we feed our brain. These are all things to help us remember that we are whole and secure within our freedom and do not require dependence but choose to be engaged in an inter-dependent , inter-active relationship.

When I first started to think about this whole idea, I went through the list of friends I had in my life. I really got honest about what it was I was gaining from having these people in my life. How have they served me and were there any there who didn’t serve me. I also had to make a decision about what was a friend to me. Applying the terminology again. I had determined that most of the people in my life were in fact NOT friends, but more acquaintances and business associates. That was a rude awakening for me. I had found that I was being a friend and giving more in the relationships then I was receiving and as a result I found that I was getting drained in my energies on a daily basis. When I made the choice to no longer allow the imbalances to take place, those people were taken out of my life, either by my own hand or by circumstance. I also had to work it as I have said earlier in this article, to just let things and people be what they are.

Here is an example. I recently had a guest who had forgotten to mark their appearance on our show, they subsequently didn’t make the appearance. Now, most people would have been hurt or insulted or upset, and I have to admit that I too would have been counted among those people a year ago. Instead my new reaction now was that all things happen for a reason and there are no accidents. This person had some place else to be and that was totally ok and things worked out in the end and so no harm no foul. This left both people feeling as if it was a win win situation. By choosing a different reaction, the response could have left a much more destructive and negative taste in both mouths. But by understanding that things happen, mistakes can be made and that it all works out in the end as it should anyway, to have that total faith that it will all be ok and that it is meant to be. Even when things do not work out in the way we had hoped it is usually for the better.

Not holding expectations on other people or their actions. Again the need to control. If you limit the universe in outcomes or if you place expectation then you are setting yourself up for instant disappointment. If you just go with the flow and not attach the outcome it usually works out better then you expected in your mind.This is much easier in theory then in practice. It takes great conscious effort to allow others to be and to BE yourself. To detach from the emotional body and to control the thoughts and to come from a place of peace. Too often we give too much of ourselves and things in relationships become unbalanced. There needs to be an exchange of energy on some level in a dualistic reality. In the oneness all just IS.

Can human beings achieve inter-dependence? Hard to say. I believe I have seen couples do this on occasion. To be independent, lead independent lives, but still be together. As ” The Profit” states. Like two pillars holding things up, but standing separately, both eat bread but not of the same loaf. To find that balance where two can be in sanctuary and not in a place of beholden or fear. I believe that we have to come to a place of humility and a willingness to work with others in realizing that many hands make less work, but all parties must be willing to do their part. One’s input doesn’t have to be the same work, but a portion of it.

Some interesting musings on inter-dependence and partnerships. What are your thoughts?

Until next time, in Love n Light and Oneness of Heart,

xoxo

Kimberly


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Greetings and Salutations! One and All! Well I hope you were able to tune into our show tonight! If not, you can always catch the entire interview in our archives at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight.

As promised here is the second entry in our month on relationships! And our very own miss Petite Lion is going to share with all of us what she believes is the Secret to Success in Lasting Relationships.

When I started to write this blog I already had the basics that I wanted to write about, the points that I wanted to include on this aspect of relationships. I have formulated in my mind that the first thing that I felt I wanted to make clear about relationships is an understanding that relationships were more than just love, lust, friendship etc., that when people say they are “in love” or that they have found “someone” that they wanted to be married to or that they want “grow old ” with, have a  “life relationship or Partner” or  are looking for  potential life relationship candidates, these are all only parts of “one” thing. Really their understanding of what that one thing  is and what that involves is less than complete . This lack of a true understanding of what it is they want, and what to call it, you may say to what  it is I said in my last statement, ; on the surface it may see m that is what I am eluding to a confusion in meaning is just something that really has no substance that it is just about a confusion due to semantics, but it is more than a pronunciation or the way a statement is worded it is about the complete whole picture of what it takes to make something work correctly, missing a wheel on a wagon it does not function properly if an integral  part of its components is not there.  Let me clarify. I think that people are not seeing the big picture of what it is that they truly want and all that it requires to work, they seem to focus on one or two of the components or sub-components of the picture of what they want. That they are focusing on certain parts of the whole  and those parts although important and desirous are not all of what it takes to work right unfortunately the only reason they want the relationship with a person is that the part that they can fulfill addresses issues, or fears, physical wants and/desires that at the moment is in the fore front of there mind. with no thought to the bigger picture . I’m not saying they don’t want more than those forefront thought  (majority will say if given the broader scope that the relationship is offering – heck yes that is what I want! ) what I’m saying is that until someone gets the “understanding’ the big scope or picture of what really a relationship encompasses and the skill sets it involves they are selling themselves and the significant  short, they are sending out incomplete or cloudy picture of what they want out into the universe. Which as anyone who has read about manifesting or “getting what they want, or changing old programs paradigms to manifest their dreams of a better life or reality”.(. What many books etc like  “As a Man Thinketh”, “The Secret”  tell us is a main important step to manifest your needs and desires thru their “step by step how to’s to  manifest  or to change  things for the better in our lives) A  clear  and complete picture of what you want is  a  very critical and  necessary part to achieving your perception of happiness or contentment to fulfilling your dreams, or what it would take to complete the list of what needs you feel  it would take to choose  happiness the easiest . (Note here, happiness isn’t something you find or put together, it is an emotion you choose to feel , our emotions are ours for us to use not the other way, we are not our emotions, our emotions do not own us, we own them , people and things or the lack thereof or situations and outcomes, old programming may make it more difficult   to choose happiness, contentment, joy and so forth .but. nonetheless we choose what to feel at any given moment .  I never said that the choice was always going to be easiest skill set to master at this moment in humanity’s existence, but ,that planting the seed of a change of perspective , the clarity the understanding is the initial and the most integral part to master that skill set or whatever skill set you to master.)  Now back to the business at hand! Just as I just planted the seed of a change in perspective for those that didn’t have the understanding  with regards to happiness thing I  just mentioned, I feel it is necessary to plant the seed of complete understanding and the true definition or the big picture of what relationship means. Once that is clarified ,for some you out there , (and you will know very quickly who you are) will get an automatic shift in consciousness , an epiphany and it will have an almost seemingly immediate  effect on the relationship area of your lives. What that means or entails is an individual  personal  thing, but the long term result is very positive. It will either motivate you to change what your responses within a current relationship are, or you  will choose to change it  totally for another more suitable one or it will give you a more complete and accurate picture to  hold to  so that what  you picture and desire to manifest in your life for your relationship comes to you is  really complete and accurate, that it is real deal for you, rather than close but no cigar type of thing or that the understanding  is able to take away the blinders away from your minds eye then you might be able figure out why you seem to be still in a toxic and/or abusive (physically and/or mentally) relationship  or keep picking the same types of partners and situations that bring you the disastrous or less than good results that after awhile you   cant understand why you end up always feeling stuck or trapped , really have the most difficult to choose happiness, as I said there are many , many things that the simple clarification that I’m going to share in this blog  that will  positively alter the relationship area  of your life in some way for the better or at least find the path to change , and no matter what, I am confident to ,say  all of them the end result will be positive . Now as I said this simple explanation of the true nature of what a relationship is with regards to ” marriage, life  sharing etc.” types of relationships will for some ,give you the instant shift, for others it will alter slightly the road that they are on, that in time will be the lick that gets them there, and for others at least it will expand and hone list of  choices that their brain or being has to choose from when they are stuck with what to do and why the problem happened. (the seed).

I know , long intro, but I needed to know that I did everything to make it clear to as many people to as many perceptions of reality as I could.  Now I will share the bit of wisdom that was given to me to share. I attained it thru many agonizing moments  of my 51 years of this life of taking ” wrong turns at Albuquerque ” in relationships. In other words I did things all the wrong ways for all the wrong reasons that thru process of elimination (and God and the universe took pity on me LOL!)  I had this major dot to dot that was completed, an epiphany , a gift of wisdom, divine clarification, I had a “should of had a V8” moment whatever you want to call it. It was so significant for me and such a gift that I felt so much  gratitude for that gift that it was very important and not just to me ,that  I wanted I needed to give someone else ,share the pleasure, of that wondrous gift from Spirit that I received I also knew I craved  to experience that rush that this epiphany gave me again, thru giving it , sharing it,  with my fellow human beings that were struggling and suffering as I had been  with this area.  To give a ray of hope to others that having the possibility of fulfilling that sought after dream was  still breathing, it was still attainable that all was not lost that you still as Kahlil Glbrane says so eloquently in “The Prophet” That the possibility of “laughing with all your laughter  weeping with all your tears ” is still on the table.
So here is the big TA DA HERE IT IS!!!!! DRUM ROLL PLEASE!!  THE SURVEY SAYS!!!………….. That when people say ,”I Love you” that is only part of what or is only one of the skill sets that you must have to have the possibility to experience a functioning long lasting whole harmonious relationship that humans have been seeking en masse since the beginning of time. There may slight adjustments or personalization’s to achieve that each partnership make need to make individually friendly, but, the basic” have to”   that are non negotiable items to even achieving the possibility of having a shot at that is, that you MUST be aware ,that to know the meaning of true love and what that skill set entails plus the meaning of true friendship and what that skill set entails and (here is the one that is the one that most people forget and/or try to lump it in with friendship as t he heading, actually ,it is the other way around , that friendship in this instance, should actually be listed as a component of partnership . I include this for those who really need that friendship word in there, it is important but it is under partnership heading.) the other main part of the formula for a true lasting relationship for life is true partnership , besides love skill set we need be aware  what requirements that skill set entails ; these are the main skill sets that is essential that you and the other person you choose must have to have the complete picture of what a successful life relationship requires (please read this last bit several times as it with a strong emphasis on must !!!).
Here is where I will briefly break down the skill  sets and why they are “must haves” when you desire life relationships that work etc. First of all I will explain the skill set of the love that is required for the formula I speak of . The billions of people out there that are made in the “image and likeness of the Creator” made of the stuff of the Creator, the sons and daughters of God that we all are that those billions are, have so to speak  the ability to love hard wired into us or that is included in the general construct of human beings. Now remember that sometimes due to one reason or another some sort of glitch happens or a personal choice is made that certain individuals don’t develop that  hard wired ability into any real functioning skill set . When I speak about humans having a natural instinctual desire and ability to give and love  I am speaking of the average human, they have innate ability built in to give and receive love , wether they choose or  develop the skill set of the kind of love required to carry out a functioning life relationship that is an individual thing and under certain circumstances there really is no choice they were born disabled in that area. After saying that , Imagine this, say you are all good and the ability has been developed and you have made it and have mastered that skill set  to love giving and the receiving of it , that is only that only one part of the essential parts that is needed and really it proportion as opposed to the other skill set is not equal, it is more love 40% and partnership is 60% (and here is what poets and people thru get caught up and have misled  the masses to believe and  understand that love is all that it takes.) It  is even in songs like  Lennon’s “All you need is love” well that may be true i n a bigger scale as a people or unite the planet the species, but it is simply in error , not true, with regards to life relationships and what it takes  to make it be a success although very integral part for it to work , just love  is not going to cut it.  What is required almost more so right from start is the skill set of Partnership. Love can be acquired after or it can grow with time and patience and a good partnership ability ,it can be  developed or perhaps be transformed from other lesser than feelings thru nurturing  and compassion understanding , tolerance, forgiveness that partnership brings to the table.  The  real true thing that people are desirous of  that people attribute solely to love is really the guts of it all  the most lasting and successful life relationships is partnership, love completes the dream makes it go to its highest and best and gives you that motivation to practice and continue to practice and use your skill sets so that they perform at their optimum and gain their optimum potential so that you are able to achieve optimum performance and satisfaction out of life relationships.  I will give you more of a real life example of this, When people make a commitment to a life relationship such as marriage, unfortunately a lot of the time what happens we get up in front of a bunch of people that are important to us and we enter into a verbal and written and witnessed contract that most of the time sounds more like some love sonnet or poorly written poem or speech  that at the time we have gotten all caught some either an arrangement made by others who really do not have the two parties that are actually having to live this contract in mind  or as it is for most cultures in world  now days they get caught up in some sort of lustful and/or  ooey gooey fairy tail naive  or fear based  perception or reason for making this contract. The words that they vow to each other whether sonnet like or  common marriage speech  the commitment the contract is lost on the two making the commitment ,  it is done without a complete understanding knowledge or education  of what they are really vowing to do  and what they are actually agreeing to. They are really not owning what it is that they are agreeing to have the skills that it requires. Even people who wouldn’t lie or make promises that won’t keep if their life depended on it or enter into the simplest contract for trivial things without a lot research and thought have no problem with doing this, Yes,  like it or not and I am just as guilty of this myself  …making a commitment to be in a life relationship without knowledge or the skill  or understanding and without truly having the right intent is a lie . I know that sounds evil but its not its just one o f those weird human idiosyncratic  oxy moronic things that humans do. So don’t beat yourself up for it this , I’m letting in on this bit just for perspective sake… really there is no judgement about it so don’t go there. Nonetheless because of this lack of seeing the whole picture and understanding what skill sets are required to this formula as you know leads to disaster namely high rates of divorce and you know the pervasive results to that little gem. The other part of the picture is people that are in the process of sorting thru candidates for this life relationship because they are not knowledgeable of the required parameters that the formula requires they pair up or choose partners that may have the love skill set but have no desire to use or be a partner to the other, they are willing to receive the love have their other be a partner but are only to either go thru the motions of the love or hit with reciprocal lust in such a way and with the right timing t hat the other are fooled and believe love is being returned in kind and the partnership is just skipped on over.  Another scenario that happens is that the lust or sexual compatibility is there big time and/or one or more of the parties fulfill in some issue that gives the person some unreality based solution to the issue or it is fulfilling some dependent co dependent beliefs that is  programing that we bought into or relieve some fear based thing that we have bought into. I could go on with the scenarios but I think you smell what I am stepping in here.  Partnership is not just friendship or saying or vowing to be a partner it is one that takes constant awareness , consideration  and work and even though it takes that much the reward is well worth it in a million ways so many I wouldn’t have the time or the paper etc to do it. Partnership means that when you make plans or commitments or decide to change jobs change beliefs that instead of just thinking in terms of me or I that what you do or decide or effects you effects the other person and their life  that the thought process MUST always be  a “we” prospective. That you no longer think in the terms that has been with you since birth that when making the decisions about your life your wants desires  and that it all about you instead  you must always think in the we terms that when making those choices that as a partner and being partner requires you to discuss communicate and validate the others concerns and opinions and keep the other persons needs and wants and welfare when you do things. Even though you must think in “we” terms , you are still individuals and that partnership is not 50% and 50% it is 100% and 100% two whole people not two half people, understand that you are still able to keep your individual self for even though you are in a partnership you  must let the winds of heaven bl ow between you again from “The Prophet” and Kahlil Gabran eloquent words  ”

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
Bottom line when people do not understand that Love is not the  only thing that in this instance Love is not all we need to consider. That the person we choose to commit to or that we should consider as a potential life partner we must not settle for less. We must know and be willing to use as well as require in our life partners the skill sets of partnership and of love for  our life relationships and not settle for anything less in our selves or our significant others. I will hopefully in this series go into the details in more depth what Love  and Partnership are composed of but I hope that you take the time and the effort to process the wisdom that I was given that I have passed on to you  today because I know that it has helped me to be a little better of person and expanded my discernment to choose better that the aspect of the divine that is experiencing itself  that I have been privileged to be , that I am , at this moment and the gift of this bit of understanding  that Spirit  bestowed on me for my soul growth and expansion has helped become a step better brighten the path so that I can walk and stumble less get lost less than I did before. Please if you should find this a gift as I did please do not thank me just pass it on, for if it makes one person better raise their vibration it does so for all.

Thanks for letting me share….hopefully it will help in some small way….many blessings! xoxo Lianna aka The Petite Lion

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Greetings and Salutations One and All! This has been quite a time energetically, it’s like a huge ebbing of the energetic tides and we are getting ready for a tsunami of a love wave like no other! So right now we are seeing a lot of huge changes in people and their circumstances. As a part of the change we are also re aligning with people who are more in our frequency ranges. So we thought we would do a series of articles this month on the topic of relationships. How to navigate them, how to find new ones, how to overcome hurts of old ones that no longer serve your highest good. Both Lianna and I will be submitting articles surrounding this very personal and interesting subjects, the human relationship. Today I would like to tackle the topic of SOULMATES, TWIN FLAMES AND YOU!

What is a soulmate:

A soul mate is a person who is cut from your same cloth. It can be anyone. Your mother in a past life can be your wife in this one. We are constantly incarnating together in different roles to expand our own experience and to balance out the things which need to be balanced.  More often then not, spiritually speaking, soul mates can  bring to the table a great deal of love, a remembrance of lives gone by. This feeling can be so strong in some instances it becomes addicting like a drug to feel that same wonderfully great feeling of love. However, the down side to this is that we are often not meant to recreate a great love affair in this lifetime. We are here for different reasons and this is where most people get messed up with all this. They think because they recognize that person they are meant to be! NOT always the case! In fact, I would say there are more who are not to be then who are.  The purpose of relationships is to accelerate the learning curve. As we interact with each other we continue  to expand our experiences to become whole people. We use others to assist us in this process and they agree to it before you ever arrive on the stage of life.

Then there are those who we have such a strong bond with that it is almost impossible to get them out of your mind because you are so extremely connected with that person. For those of you who have never had this type of an intense connection where you are completely at oneness with another soul then you will probably have some difficulty in wrapping your head around this type of intense love. It is like being addicted to a drug or a habit, as previously mentioned. You cannot function in life’s normal daily activities for your thoughts are consumed like a fire in your heart and head. You eat , drink , sleep this person even when you are fighting you still have that constant love connection. Love doesn’t change or alter, it does however have a double edged sword. With this type of Love when the two are apart it can create total chaos in ones life! You feel as if a part of you has been removed from your body! You feel as if life is just not quite in sync with this person not a part of your world . You cannot seem to function beyond auto pilot. You continue in life much as a zombie. Putting on a happy face when all the while you are dying inside to know how that person is, what are they doing, what are they thinking. Some would call this obsessive compulsive in some ways it can very much mimic that, but this is a different type of deal, this is your heart is sick, being love sick. Even when you succeed at creating a physical separation through marriage or relocation that feeling never goes away, the Love is constant. These types of feelings are more recognized in the romantic relationships but the same can hold true for best friends and family members or a pet. I have been blessed to have experienced soul recognition in many people I have met over the years! Some of them just recently. These types of connections are really wonderful because of the intensity of them for personal awareness, refinement and experience. It helps us to grow stronger to know what we really want or don’t want. To help us get over ourselves with regard to fear, control, or lack of control, self doubt, self pity all of the things that would be negative in today’s definitions of a whole person. Often times we make the mistake of seeing the persons inside and their potential rather then where they truly are, as we have discussed in previous blog entries. If you have one person who is awake and can recognize the other party for who they are in Spirit, yet the other party is asleep and doesn’t believe in such things, this can be an interesting challenge especially for healers and empaths. We have a natural “thing” within us that wants to fix everything because we know we can. We attract the broken and crazy because they recognize that healing energy within. Also there is those who will feel the energy of Love running through you and they recognize the feelings of “home” or being in the oneness of Love, but it is not the person they love it’s the energy they carry! Once that drunk in Spirit wears off, that other person will often go upon their own personal journey without you and usually with another. This is a regular occurence for those who have the path of opening hearts.

So again a soulmate can be anyone, not limited to romance.

Soul Groups what are they?

Soul groups are beings who again are from a group of souls or beings made from the same fiber. Often time our soulmates on Earth are chosen from this “group”. However, in this day and age, I will say that I have seen a lot of cross marriages taking place. Meaning, different houses are forming alliances within resonating soul groups, the result is new genetics to accommodate the future generation’s frequencies.

Twin Flames

It is rare, very rare, that a true twin flame will incarnate within the same lifetime.  In some instances, if the energy is too great or there is a mission/purpose a soul can split into multiple bodies thus creating the twin self on earth. For this reason, the other half our ourselves is usually on the other side assisting us. However, it is not impossible. Nothing is. But more often then not, twin flames do not cross in the same lifetime. I would however agree that there are more sets now then ever before just because of the opportunities to clear karmic issues.

Partnerships are the more common truth in relationships. It often times has nothing to do with love which is a true shame, it’s all about comfort zones and settling for less because you believe that’s all you can achieve or ever have.

That limited thinking is just that. Anything is possible and as long as it’s within divine alignment for your soul plan then it not only can happen but will likely happen.

The problem comes in when we have expectations to a desired outcome. We torture ourselves trying to make square pegs fit into round holes.

We want this person to love us as much as we love them, well in the case where one is asleep the other awakened that is not usually possible. Due to different perceptions as to what is happiness. What is love or friendship by each individuals perceptions is always going to be different. To make relationships of any kind work, there must be a common view of life and common definitions of those terms. It takes a mutual dedication to work things through and not to run away and hide when things get difficult. To trust so that all communication can be honest without fear of repercussions. To be mature enough to be honest with yourself first and those around you. To be determined and patient enough to allow the other person to be all they are, good bad and ugly! We so often want to control or just change this or that to make things work. We need to begin to realize that sometimes when we are holding too tightly we have to let it go so that it can grow into the reality of what we see in that person. We are learning I believe in this time frame the ground rules for being inter-dependent with one another, rather then being co-dependent or too in-dependent or just dependent period.  I will go more into the concept of inter dependence in a later blog.

A soulmate can be a beautiful thing, it can be a giant nightmare to others, usually involving high emotional roller coaster feelings. Just remember, be careful what you ask for or focus on the universe will provide!

I hope this clears up the idea of “soulmates” for people and please, if you have any questions or I can clarify better, please do not hesitate to comment! I will get back to you!

Thanks for reading! xoxo Kimberly

Here are a few other people’s thoughts on “soulmates”.


This entry is rated R for adult language and topics but is full of truths….


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Greetings and Salutations One and All! It has been an amazing time of change and rebirth. Many people’s lives have changed, and in the immediate it looks bleak but there is a rainbow after every storm.  How we choose to see the challenges and they are many, is how we will weather that storm and the aftermath from it. It is for sure one of the most difficult challenges in life when your entire world changes in a matter of moments, or hours.  The good news is that just as quickly as it seems to all fall apart there is a solution to the issue at hand or a new door that opens, a new road, a new beginning. It is never easy changes in life, especially when they seem to come to your face back to back to back, but hold steady and take things one moment at a time when it seems that you cannot breath for all the blows you have been given.  Talk it out as much as you can with good friends who do not mind listening. Go ride your bike or get quiet with God in your own personal way and get it out of your system. Allow the emotions to ride through you like walking through a fog. Let them go and realize and accept that what you are dealing with is not a mountain, it only feels like it. See it as a speed bump, knowing that you are on the right track, because the law of opposites always comes first. Do not give up on yourself. Do not give up on God and the Universe. Do your best to say thank you for those things you do have, not focus on what is lacking or now lost. It is in the gratitude that prayers and miracles can work along with a little faith and some action that you do have control of.

I will share with all of you that this past two weeks has been a true test of endurance in faith walking. As many things as one could imagine possibly going wrong did and then some. But all the while I kept telling myself that it would all work out. I had several moments of total breakdown to release the shockwaves that had hit my heart, mind, body and soul. But as I have advised to all of you, I allowed myself to feel those feelings as a part of the response to the stimuli but once that was done, I started to focus on those things I did have in my life that were not broken or gone, those things which survived and needed to be nurtured and valued. I took action on those things which were within my control and asked for help from others un ashamed because it was truly needed in the moment and so grateful that it was there when I did ask. For all the things that went wrong, it could have been so much worse! And as the challenges presented themselves there was someone there to pick up the baton and run with it until the goal of moving me was completed. Now the job of getting me settled and working is at hand. No longer a desire but a need. I had set out on this path to begin anew, to expand myself and my horizons. I made it through when the odds were totally against me making that happen. Moments of doubt in myself in everything and everybody, but they were moments not days or months. The ebb and flow moved quickly and things continue to move with a swiftness I have not experienced since my awakening. I am not perfect, I have my moments of weakness and anger and frustration like all the rest, but I do my best now, to really seize that opportunity to change my perspective and actions around when challenges arise. I stay in the right now. What can I do about this right now? If it’s nothing then fretting will not help at all. So I may retreat and meditate, or write, or sing or walk or sit in the sun, something to change how I am looking at things. Taking a moment to come to a balance. That is not an easy thing to do when you just want to run and hide from the world wondering why you woke up this morning. Not an easy thing to do when you feel like the train has just plowed into your chest and you cannot breath over and over again.

Change always means the death of something and the rebirth of a new thing. It is never the same but if it was, we would not grow, it would be boring and stagnant if there were no adversity in the world. This is why we are grateful for even the challenges in life. Yes life changing. Yes very scary because we do not know what lies before us. We have to remember that it could be something even more wonderful then we ever imagined! It may look the same but it could be better and stronger! YOU are better and stronger having walked through that fire! Now you might be able to help guide another though that same scary moment when they come to it in their walk! You never know until you try it. You never know unless you risk walking through that door of uncertainty and discomfort. Living life requires that you take the risks. Failure is only one step closer to success. We never learn if we don’t try. For me, I worked on the show, the websites, unpacking boxes and organizing one box at a time, I had to rearrange a few things and borrow a friend’s car for awhile, I have to figure out a means of income that will sustain my son and I. When I stepped back and took things as I could, what I could do I did, what I couldn’t do I put off until I could do it with success and clarity. I am being very contemplative in the steps that I make and not doing it from a place of fear or desperation. I have done my best, not totally successful at not reacting but responding. I have remembered to be loving with myself and others and to be grateful for all that I have. To remember that no matter how dark it seems, God has never let me down. Even when things didn’t logically make sense, it will always work out for the highest good of all. I try to remember to be humble and compassionate in my walk. To do deeds in love without expectation. To give until I can give no more of myself, my belongings, my time, my knowledge… and if I do these things, then all the rest will fall into place somehow.

Stand up for what is right. Believe in yourself when no one else does. Remember that we are never alone even though the road can be lonely. Life is meant to be lived. We are meant to be happy whatever that looks like to you. I know that God has not brought me through the many things in life that I have endured to have me fail now. I have to believe that he loves me that much and that I have to love myself that much. I am thankful that I have people around me to remind me to believe in my ability to carry on no matter what. To land on my feet and make lemonade out the lemons I get handed. I do my best to find the serenity in any given moment. The beauty of the sunrise, the peace of the sunset. The simple things in life that make me cherish the life I have and give me the strength to make it through to the next challenge or task at hand and to give me the stamina to endure those moments when life is not fun or happy. I encourage all of you to hear my tales and thoughts and see if you see some of yourself or someone you know in these words and perhaps for a moment see a new perspective a different set of eyes. And that my hope is you find some comfort in knowing that it will all be OK and will work out just as it’s supposed to. Staying in the now, keeps your sanity. Leave for tomorrow what is tomorrows today has enough of its own.

Share with us if you will some of your moments of strength and challenge and how you overcame in your journey. It is good to share so that others may gain from your experience.

I thank you all for your time and consideration of these musings of mine. Be blessed and nothing less always.

Until next time. Adieu. xox Kimberly

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Greetings and Salutations One and All! Today I would like to discuss the importance of positive thinking.  I would like to begin with positive thinking doesn’t mean a 24 hour a day thing, that would make you extreme and robotic and not human at all. The truth of it is, we are humanoids that experience emotions and encounters which trigger emotional responses so that we are given the opportunities to grow individually and as a group.  All things are energy. Nothing more or less. These energies are based in frequencies and when plucked can cause quite a reverberation for all universes to hear. This being said, energy of thought is like plucking that string or set of strings to make a harmonic sound or a chord if you will. Thus is the song of manifestation in the three D world.  When you send out a thought it goes out to the universe good or bad and it will respond to give you what you ask for. This ability is coming much faster then ever before. Understand that it is the thinking part which plucks the cord so it’s important that you cancel out negative thoughts as quickly as they come to your mind. Let them pass through and change them in golden light or purple light and give them to the heavens for transmutation.  Another lady recently said that she sees all her negative thoughts as she is standing next to a river as leaves fallen from the trees to the river of life and sees them floating down stream and transmuting in the water. That is another great visual. The concept here is to release the negative stinkin thinin from your being. When we send enough of these microcosmic negative thoughts into the collective consciousness we are creating energy to feed not such pleasant results. Of course we can diffuse it with the thinking of waves calming in the ocean to a gentle lap against the shores but it’s easier to just be aware of the fact that we feed those larger snowballs of negativity when we do not cancel it out.

Positive thinking in a world full of negative influences and banter is not an easy thing to do. We are programmed from a very young age to think negative thoughts about ourselves and the world around us. Children are not born with things like fear and anger, those things come as they learn from their own environments and the things we stimulate them with. So we have to basically re-think that far back our own thought patterns. Recognizing our own defense patterns and mechanisms. Recognizing when we are living our story and not our present. Recognizing when we are blaming instead of owning our own stuff. Being able to rise above all of that and come to a place of grace and forgiveness is a whole other story! But it is when we are able to come to these states of grace that we are no longer in conflict with the inner shadows of our human nature and programming. We are coming from a place of being and allowing that does not have conflict only peace and harmony and love.

It takes conscious effort to achieve this control over a very active mind and ego. These things are there for a purpose and they do serve us, however, they do not control us, we control it. The same is true of the emotional body. Positive thinking is a huge part of healing and beginning to come to a place of self love and centeredness.

I could go into all types of reasons on a physical body level why positive thinking is important, however in a nutshell our thoughts, music, words we hear or use, effect our DNA and genetic stuff as well as our overall well being. A recent interview I heard with Dee Wallace she puts an interesting spin on stuff, she said that when we experience trauma, that our feminine and masculine energies become imbalanced and freeze in a state of fear and we get stuck in that fear, her suggestion was to with love and gentleness and talk with your inner child let them know that you are in charge now and that you will keep them safe to follow you in expanding yourself to your greatest potential in a positive light and that you will keep that inner child safe. This is the ultimate trust and safety we can achieve, to trust ourselves. To move through and release and reprogram that we do not love ourselves or others. Forgiveness and grace around these situations. Remember that how things appear on the surface to wait and look beneath. There is lots of ILLUSION n delusion running amuck. Tricks upon the eyes and minds eyes so be aware and discern in love and joy whenever possible, see the best within all beings and things. Even the crystals are being affected so it is important that we keep a positive thought whenever possible, to dive into the negative lower vibrational only perpetuates it. So if you are feeling panicky or in a place of fear then think of a place of serenity. You can go to your happy place simply by taking a few deep breaths and thinking differently. Put a happy song in your ears, your mind, your heart and soul. Smile and think of happy things even when you are sad. Realize pain lies in dreams and the past, neither are the now. Know that you are loved and supported by many angels, guides and beings now and always. We control our thoughts and emotions, what do you choose. Release the expectations that people will do as they say see past where they are coming from fear and see the light within them as they too are growing and expanding in their awareness and consciousness, allow them to be and recognize it is theirs and you do not have to own it or pick it up and look at it unless you so CHOOSE. Smiles. I choose to be love. I choose to be joy. I choose to be expansion always in the light. I choose to see things in a different way and be ok that I am the way I am now in this moment.

Make it a great day everyone! Whenever you read this! There is no time like the present! LOL.

xox Kimberly

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