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Greetings and Salutations! One and All! Well I hope you were able to tune into our show tonight! If not, you can always catch the entire interview in our archives at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight.

As promised here is the second entry in our month on relationships! And our very own miss Petite Lion is going to share with all of us what she believes is the Secret to Success in Lasting Relationships.

When I started to write this blog I already had the basics that I wanted to write about, the points that I wanted to include on this aspect of relationships. I have formulated in my mind that the first thing that I felt I wanted to make clear about relationships is an understanding that relationships were more than just love, lust, friendship etc., that when people say they are “in love” or that they have found “someone” that they wanted to be married to or that they want “grow old ” with, have a  “life relationship or Partner” or  are looking for  potential life relationship candidates, these are all only parts of “one” thing. Really their understanding of what that one thing  is and what that involves is less than complete . This lack of a true understanding of what it is they want, and what to call it, you may say to what  it is I said in my last statement, ; on the surface it may see m that is what I am eluding to a confusion in meaning is just something that really has no substance that it is just about a confusion due to semantics, but it is more than a pronunciation or the way a statement is worded it is about the complete whole picture of what it takes to make something work correctly, missing a wheel on a wagon it does not function properly if an integral  part of its components is not there.  Let me clarify. I think that people are not seeing the big picture of what it is that they truly want and all that it requires to work, they seem to focus on one or two of the components or sub-components of the picture of what they want. That they are focusing on certain parts of the whole  and those parts although important and desirous are not all of what it takes to work right unfortunately the only reason they want the relationship with a person is that the part that they can fulfill addresses issues, or fears, physical wants and/desires that at the moment is in the fore front of there mind. with no thought to the bigger picture . I’m not saying they don’t want more than those forefront thought  (majority will say if given the broader scope that the relationship is offering – heck yes that is what I want! ) what I’m saying is that until someone gets the “understanding’ the big scope or picture of what really a relationship encompasses and the skill sets it involves they are selling themselves and the significant  short, they are sending out incomplete or cloudy picture of what they want out into the universe. Which as anyone who has read about manifesting or “getting what they want, or changing old programs paradigms to manifest their dreams of a better life or reality”.(. What many books etc like  “As a Man Thinketh”, “The Secret”  tell us is a main important step to manifest your needs and desires thru their “step by step how to’s to  manifest  or to change  things for the better in our lives) A  clear  and complete picture of what you want is  a  very critical and  necessary part to achieving your perception of happiness or contentment to fulfilling your dreams, or what it would take to complete the list of what needs you feel  it would take to choose  happiness the easiest . (Note here, happiness isn’t something you find or put together, it is an emotion you choose to feel , our emotions are ours for us to use not the other way, we are not our emotions, our emotions do not own us, we own them , people and things or the lack thereof or situations and outcomes, old programming may make it more difficult   to choose happiness, contentment, joy and so forth .but. nonetheless we choose what to feel at any given moment .  I never said that the choice was always going to be easiest skill set to master at this moment in humanity’s existence, but ,that planting the seed of a change of perspective , the clarity the understanding is the initial and the most integral part to master that skill set or whatever skill set you to master.)  Now back to the business at hand! Just as I just planted the seed of a change in perspective for those that didn’t have the understanding  with regards to happiness thing I  just mentioned, I feel it is necessary to plant the seed of complete understanding and the true definition or the big picture of what relationship means. Once that is clarified ,for some you out there , (and you will know very quickly who you are) will get an automatic shift in consciousness , an epiphany and it will have an almost seemingly immediate  effect on the relationship area of your lives. What that means or entails is an individual  personal  thing, but the long term result is very positive. It will either motivate you to change what your responses within a current relationship are, or you  will choose to change it  totally for another more suitable one or it will give you a more complete and accurate picture to  hold to  so that what  you picture and desire to manifest in your life for your relationship comes to you is  really complete and accurate, that it is real deal for you, rather than close but no cigar type of thing or that the understanding  is able to take away the blinders away from your minds eye then you might be able figure out why you seem to be still in a toxic and/or abusive (physically and/or mentally) relationship  or keep picking the same types of partners and situations that bring you the disastrous or less than good results that after awhile you   cant understand why you end up always feeling stuck or trapped , really have the most difficult to choose happiness, as I said there are many , many things that the simple clarification that I’m going to share in this blog  that will  positively alter the relationship area  of your life in some way for the better or at least find the path to change , and no matter what, I am confident to ,say  all of them the end result will be positive . Now as I said this simple explanation of the true nature of what a relationship is with regards to ” marriage, life  sharing etc.” types of relationships will for some ,give you the instant shift, for others it will alter slightly the road that they are on, that in time will be the lick that gets them there, and for others at least it will expand and hone list of  choices that their brain or being has to choose from when they are stuck with what to do and why the problem happened. (the seed).

I know , long intro, but I needed to know that I did everything to make it clear to as many people to as many perceptions of reality as I could.  Now I will share the bit of wisdom that was given to me to share. I attained it thru many agonizing moments  of my 51 years of this life of taking ” wrong turns at Albuquerque ” in relationships. In other words I did things all the wrong ways for all the wrong reasons that thru process of elimination (and God and the universe took pity on me LOL!)  I had this major dot to dot that was completed, an epiphany , a gift of wisdom, divine clarification, I had a “should of had a V8” moment whatever you want to call it. It was so significant for me and such a gift that I felt so much  gratitude for that gift that it was very important and not just to me ,that  I wanted I needed to give someone else ,share the pleasure, of that wondrous gift from Spirit that I received I also knew I craved  to experience that rush that this epiphany gave me again, thru giving it , sharing it,  with my fellow human beings that were struggling and suffering as I had been  with this area.  To give a ray of hope to others that having the possibility of fulfilling that sought after dream was  still breathing, it was still attainable that all was not lost that you still as Kahlil Glbrane says so eloquently in “The Prophet” That the possibility of “laughing with all your laughter  weeping with all your tears ” is still on the table.
So here is the big TA DA HERE IT IS!!!!! DRUM ROLL PLEASE!!  THE SURVEY SAYS!!!………….. That when people say ,”I Love you” that is only part of what or is only one of the skill sets that you must have to have the possibility to experience a functioning long lasting whole harmonious relationship that humans have been seeking en masse since the beginning of time. There may slight adjustments or personalization’s to achieve that each partnership make need to make individually friendly, but, the basic” have to”   that are non negotiable items to even achieving the possibility of having a shot at that is, that you MUST be aware ,that to know the meaning of true love and what that skill set entails plus the meaning of true friendship and what that skill set entails and (here is the one that is the one that most people forget and/or try to lump it in with friendship as t he heading, actually ,it is the other way around , that friendship in this instance, should actually be listed as a component of partnership . I include this for those who really need that friendship word in there, it is important but it is under partnership heading.) the other main part of the formula for a true lasting relationship for life is true partnership , besides love skill set we need be aware  what requirements that skill set entails ; these are the main skill sets that is essential that you and the other person you choose must have to have the complete picture of what a successful life relationship requires (please read this last bit several times as it with a strong emphasis on must !!!).
Here is where I will briefly break down the skill  sets and why they are “must haves” when you desire life relationships that work etc. First of all I will explain the skill set of the love that is required for the formula I speak of . The billions of people out there that are made in the “image and likeness of the Creator” made of the stuff of the Creator, the sons and daughters of God that we all are that those billions are, have so to speak  the ability to love hard wired into us or that is included in the general construct of human beings. Now remember that sometimes due to one reason or another some sort of glitch happens or a personal choice is made that certain individuals don’t develop that  hard wired ability into any real functioning skill set . When I speak about humans having a natural instinctual desire and ability to give and love  I am speaking of the average human, they have innate ability built in to give and receive love , wether they choose or  develop the skill set of the kind of love required to carry out a functioning life relationship that is an individual thing and under certain circumstances there really is no choice they were born disabled in that area. After saying that , Imagine this, say you are all good and the ability has been developed and you have made it and have mastered that skill set  to love giving and the receiving of it , that is only that only one part of the essential parts that is needed and really it proportion as opposed to the other skill set is not equal, it is more love 40% and partnership is 60% (and here is what poets and people thru get caught up and have misled  the masses to believe and  understand that love is all that it takes.) It  is even in songs like  Lennon’s “All you need is love” well that may be true i n a bigger scale as a people or unite the planet the species, but it is simply in error , not true, with regards to life relationships and what it takes  to make it be a success although very integral part for it to work , just love  is not going to cut it.  What is required almost more so right from start is the skill set of Partnership. Love can be acquired after or it can grow with time and patience and a good partnership ability ,it can be  developed or perhaps be transformed from other lesser than feelings thru nurturing  and compassion understanding , tolerance, forgiveness that partnership brings to the table.  The  real true thing that people are desirous of  that people attribute solely to love is really the guts of it all  the most lasting and successful life relationships is partnership, love completes the dream makes it go to its highest and best and gives you that motivation to practice and continue to practice and use your skill sets so that they perform at their optimum and gain their optimum potential so that you are able to achieve optimum performance and satisfaction out of life relationships.  I will give you more of a real life example of this, When people make a commitment to a life relationship such as marriage, unfortunately a lot of the time what happens we get up in front of a bunch of people that are important to us and we enter into a verbal and written and witnessed contract that most of the time sounds more like some love sonnet or poorly written poem or speech  that at the time we have gotten all caught some either an arrangement made by others who really do not have the two parties that are actually having to live this contract in mind  or as it is for most cultures in world  now days they get caught up in some sort of lustful and/or  ooey gooey fairy tail naive  or fear based  perception or reason for making this contract. The words that they vow to each other whether sonnet like or  common marriage speech  the commitment the contract is lost on the two making the commitment ,  it is done without a complete understanding knowledge or education  of what they are really vowing to do  and what they are actually agreeing to. They are really not owning what it is that they are agreeing to have the skills that it requires. Even people who wouldn’t lie or make promises that won’t keep if their life depended on it or enter into the simplest contract for trivial things without a lot research and thought have no problem with doing this, Yes,  like it or not and I am just as guilty of this myself  …making a commitment to be in a life relationship without knowledge or the skill  or understanding and without truly having the right intent is a lie . I know that sounds evil but its not its just one o f those weird human idiosyncratic  oxy moronic things that humans do. So don’t beat yourself up for it this , I’m letting in on this bit just for perspective sake… really there is no judgement about it so don’t go there. Nonetheless because of this lack of seeing the whole picture and understanding what skill sets are required to this formula as you know leads to disaster namely high rates of divorce and you know the pervasive results to that little gem. The other part of the picture is people that are in the process of sorting thru candidates for this life relationship because they are not knowledgeable of the required parameters that the formula requires they pair up or choose partners that may have the love skill set but have no desire to use or be a partner to the other, they are willing to receive the love have their other be a partner but are only to either go thru the motions of the love or hit with reciprocal lust in such a way and with the right timing t hat the other are fooled and believe love is being returned in kind and the partnership is just skipped on over.  Another scenario that happens is that the lust or sexual compatibility is there big time and/or one or more of the parties fulfill in some issue that gives the person some unreality based solution to the issue or it is fulfilling some dependent co dependent beliefs that is  programing that we bought into or relieve some fear based thing that we have bought into. I could go on with the scenarios but I think you smell what I am stepping in here.  Partnership is not just friendship or saying or vowing to be a partner it is one that takes constant awareness , consideration  and work and even though it takes that much the reward is well worth it in a million ways so many I wouldn’t have the time or the paper etc to do it. Partnership means that when you make plans or commitments or decide to change jobs change beliefs that instead of just thinking in terms of me or I that what you do or decide or effects you effects the other person and their life  that the thought process MUST always be  a “we” prospective. That you no longer think in the terms that has been with you since birth that when making the decisions about your life your wants desires  and that it all about you instead  you must always think in the we terms that when making those choices that as a partner and being partner requires you to discuss communicate and validate the others concerns and opinions and keep the other persons needs and wants and welfare when you do things. Even though you must think in “we” terms , you are still individuals and that partnership is not 50% and 50% it is 100% and 100% two whole people not two half people, understand that you are still able to keep your individual self for even though you are in a partnership you  must let the winds of heaven bl ow between you again from “The Prophet” and Kahlil Gabran eloquent words  ”

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
Bottom line when people do not understand that Love is not the  only thing that in this instance Love is not all we need to consider. That the person we choose to commit to or that we should consider as a potential life partner we must not settle for less. We must know and be willing to use as well as require in our life partners the skill sets of partnership and of love for  our life relationships and not settle for anything less in our selves or our significant others. I will hopefully in this series go into the details in more depth what Love  and Partnership are composed of but I hope that you take the time and the effort to process the wisdom that I was given that I have passed on to you  today because I know that it has helped me to be a little better of person and expanded my discernment to choose better that the aspect of the divine that is experiencing itself  that I have been privileged to be , that I am , at this moment and the gift of this bit of understanding  that Spirit  bestowed on me for my soul growth and expansion has helped become a step better brighten the path so that I can walk and stumble less get lost less than I did before. Please if you should find this a gift as I did please do not thank me just pass it on, for if it makes one person better raise their vibration it does so for all.

Thanks for letting me share….hopefully it will help in some small way….many blessings! xoxo Lianna aka The Petite Lion
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Greetings and Salutations! One and All! Please be sure to join us tonight for Mary Lou Acimovic who has written a book called Mild Traumatic Brain Injury: The Guidebook, and will be discussing the topic of brain injuries and how they affect our lives. Over 1 million people are affected by this condition each year. Tune in Tuesday 9pm MST blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight !!!

Mary Lou Acimovic has been a practicing speech pathologist for 32 years.  She obtained a Masters Degree in Speech Pathology and Audiology from the University of Colorado.  She is certified in biofeedback (Senior Fellow status) and neurofeedback by the Biofeedback Society of America.  For the past 24 years, she has specialized in the evaluation and treatment of mild traumatic brain injury  She served as the director of the Brain Injury Program at the Mapleton Center for Rehabilitation in Boulder, Colorado and participated in the development of one of the first comprehensive programs in the nation specifically for the treatment of mild traumatic brain injury.  Currently she is in private practice in Boulder.

Ms. Acimovic serves on the Governor’s Brain Injury Advisory Board and advocates for patients’ rights.  She has presented regionally and nationally and has published articles on topics related to mild traumatic brain injury.

Mary Lou is truly a lady who knows her stuff, and you will be shocked and enlightened when this show is done! There are so many people who are afflicted with the conditions we are going to discuss, especially our service men and women! You owe it to yourself to find out more about this condition and who it affects and how, what can be done about it, and how can we be supportive of those who are suffering from it! Be sure to tune this is a show you will NOT want to miss!

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