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Greetings and salutations One and All!  The energies have been running high, people’s emotional bodies are clearing house it would seem. Lots of our stuff coming up in our faces to deal with and transmute. Seems like de ja vu, like you have been here before only with other faces or perhaps the same ones, coming back from the past to finish working out the details of our lessons together. There is a new moon and the feminine energies are running rampant as people’s hearts are opening and clearing all over the planet. Venus will be crossing Jupiter and this combination with the new moon should prove to be a very powerful love weekend just in time for Valentine’s Day. So hold onto your hats, and remember that these things shall too pass.  I feel that if you are in a relationship things will get deeper and if you are looking for a relationship the stars are in the right place for new opportunities in relationships. So enjoy a little indulgence and treat yourself and or your honey this weekend to some TLC.

Our topic today is about Empathy. Empathy has so many aspects to it, we are going to break this down into a series of blogs in the next month.  What is empathy? It is the ability to feel things.  It is in the sensory way can mean feeling emotions, in a healing way to feel someone’s pain, in a cosmic way to feel the planet and the events which are taking place here or in the Universe. It is a lot of things rolled up into one.

Who has empathy? Well I believe that we all have empathy to one degree or another. For example, if you have burned your finger on something hot before, and your child burns their finger on something hot, you can empathize with that feeling of burning because you have experienced it before, you have the total understanding of what that experience is about, what’s involved, how long it will take to heal etc. It’s a knowing through experience. This is different then sympathy, which is that we can IMAGINE what that person is experiencing but we have not walked that experience so we can only share in that to a degree.

An empathic person, is a person who experiences more then most and therefore can feel exactly what the other people are feeling and therefore can help to heal and or transmute that energy. This experience may not be experience in this lifetime, this may be knowledge or experience carried forth from past lifetimes as well.

This gift of empathy is a very useful gift but one which comes with a great responsibility as well. For when you are working with people in the capacity of assisting them, you must be careful to not do it for them, but to allow them to discover within themselves how to surf the emotions and feelings they are experiencing.  This is not always a pleasant or comfortable thing, empathy. In fact, more times then not, it’s very uncomfortable for the empathic person. To absorb all that is around you and feel it, can be very overwhelming, confusing and unbalancing. Because often times, we do not recognize that we are experiencing, someone or something else other then our own stuff. It takes time and conscious effort to make that distinction for many. What I found to be most difficult was how to shield myself from those outward energies. The second most difficult thing was learning to control that energy we call empathy. How I finally gained that control was through the help of a friend who not only understood what I was going through but was willing to teach me how to work with it at least enough to live with it.

It was about this time when I had made a vow to myself, to help as many as I could understand what was happening to them as people awakened. I swore this code of mystery and secrecy of the gifts would be shared with everyone, not just the elite few. This is why I am starting a radio show, why I started to write and do chat rooms, why I am driven to complete the books I began to write all those years ago.

What does empathy feel like?

Empathy is such a mish mosh of stuff, it really is difficult to put into words, but I will humbly attempt the description of the feelings associated with it. On the emotional level and the psychological level, these “feelings” can appear to feel like bi-polar or depression symptoms. You are suddenly crying for no reason at all when you were just fine a few moments ago, or you are agitated and angry for no reason,it can be the feeling of an anvil on your entire being, it can feel like there is no hope and a sense of loss or being lost. The inability to focus on anything because you are a mess inside. It can feel like a sadness that will not leave you. It can feel like you are a totally different person then you were yesterday and feel like you are misplaced out of time and space. Because, the emotions and thoughts go against everything you personally know or believe in this life walk to date. I always tell people try describing what salt tastes like when you have NEVER experienced “salty”. Not so easy to put into words. So it is with empathy, unless you have experienced all that it is, at times it is difficult to express what it is we are feeling. How empathy is felt by people is on a very physical level. You can actually feel the same pain as another being. You have never had a history of knee or back problems and now all of a sudden you are feeling pain and symptoms as if you had the issue yourself. This is a valuable tool when learning to heal others. It helps you to identify exactly what the problem is in the other person so healing energy can be directed to that point. If you were to go into a doctor’s office they would tell you there is nothing wrong with your physical body, yet you still feel the pain how does that work?? Well, again, we are “feeling” it and understand it because we on some level have experienced this same thing before on a physical level. It doesn’t mean we are experiencing those feelings as a result of our own injuries currently but we can “feel” other people’s as they are in the present time. There are times when you can feel as if you are losing your mind, your faith, your ability to carry on. Many respond to this inability to “deal” with the issues by secluding themselves to avoid “feeling” everyone’s stuff. I find for myself, I have done that as a natural defense to it. I go into the world but also need the sanctuary of my own space to NOT feel if I so choose. And the thing of it is, this gift never turns off, when it is awoken it only continues to grow and grow stronger. So trying to run away from it or deny it is futile really.

So, continuing, on a physical level, it can feel like flu, fibromayalsia, a cold, sickness to the digestive system, a loss of appetite, headaches of all kinds, neck and back aches, difficulty breathing, panic attacks, irregular heartbeats, tingles throughout the body, hot and cold temperatures in the body (extremes, feeling like you will combust or you are so cold you are almost in convulsions) ,  insomnia or the opposite wanting to sleep all the time, irregular menstrual cycles and the physical symptoms associated with that, can reduce or increase sexual desires as well.

These symptoms can also be applied to the ascension process, so it’s important for you to be able to go within yourself to identify the energy signatures and speak to the cellular and atomic levels, as to where this “feeling” is coming from and ask how to disband it. I tend to run light through myself and release through a tube to the center of the earth for transmutation or up to the heavens in twinkles of gold so they are carried forth for transmutation in this manner.

The key things to learning to control the “feelings” is to be able to identify it within yourself. To go within so that you can be guided as to how YOU can separate the different energy signatures and work with them in your own way. These things I share are from my own research, study and experience. But like people, the gifts are equally diverse and what works for one may not work for another. My experiences may not be the same but similar, and I will say this, one thing that is true of most empaths, is we experience far more trauma in our lives then the average person. The answer to why we have to walk through more is because we are the example of how to overcome the difficulties and challenges of this world, we are the ones the masses turn to when nothing else makes sense and all the old ways begin to fall away. We are the wayshowers, the healers, the light in the dark, the weak are made strong through the power of what many call God. In our weaknesses comes His greatest glory and power and strength.

I will revisit this topic more in the coming weeks, but for now, I bid you all a good day! Blessed be!

xox

Kimberly




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Greetings and salutations one and All!  Happy Tuesday to you! I do hope today’s blog finds you well!  Today I would like to focus on forgiveness.  During this time frame, I have noticed there are quite a few people coming out in defensive stances and taking things personally. I have said before that in order to stay in the heart, you must learn to accept people as they are, where they are in their own path.

We have no control over other people, only ourselves, our own reactions/responses to various people and situations. And IF we are getting reactive and angry or hurt, then we need to look to ourselves to find out why. Where is this emotion coming from? What is there that I am supposed to see? What fears are at the core? Why is it bothering me that people do not like my work? Why is it bothering me this person is being unreasonable? Yes, normal REACTION is self defense, but the RESPONSE could look more like, “You know, I really do love you, and because I do love you, I am walking away or hanging up the phone right now. When you are done with your moment then get back to me!” Then let it drop at your feet. Think about something else or do something else in another location.

What happens quite often times, if we do not do this immediate releasing and allowing, then we stuff that emotion until the core of it explodes in our face. Usually through some over reaction to something else. Not feeling good about myself because others my whole life have told me so. I could never amount to anything because they told me so! These are old tapes playing that are not truth. They are someone else’s truth forced upon you that you accepted and bought into. So in order for us to deal with the lack of self worth, our higher self will call forth people continuously! YOU  brought them into play with that particular message so you could work on this issue within yourself! Learn to recognize your own responsibility in why things happen to you. Why particular circumstances are presented to you. This is not the solid rule here either. Sometimes we are put into situations to witness some behavior or being so that we can discern later when we see it again, or just to bare witness to a scene or behavior. We are Creator’s eyes. What we see reports back to the ONE consciousness.

So if you were to step outside the situation, scene of the crime, whatever, and really look at it from an observer’s perspective. How was the other person’s bio rythm that day, or how was their horirary chart in that situation. What was their intention, and how did the actions and words differ, and what was the fear base in this whole situation? Mine and theirs. This is how you begin to break things down. When you can look to see the patterns in your experiences. i.e. a person needs to deal with co dependency so they choose a family with nothing but alcoholics so they can experience that. A person who needs to deal with abandonment fears will have multiple failed relationships until they over come the fear of abandonment. Do you see? This again is how we begin to take responsibility for our own stuff. It’s not about what the other person did or didn’t do, it’s about how you looked at it, how you perceived it, how you experienced it,  and to be honest with yourself about it, i.e. admit you could have possibly mis interpreted the other person’s perspective because you were playing old tapes, bringing the past to the present, or can you see this person as just playing a role , like role playing to help you see yourself. Holding the mirror for you to see you?

I do not proclaim to be anything except a woman who has experienced an awful lot of this in her own personal journey and learned a lot along the way.  When I get discouraged I look behind me and see how far i have come, even though the road ahead is still seemingly long. I can perservier.

People have no idea what it is to be a light worker in some capacity. We get hit harder, faster, more often then most with just the most bizzare situations and circumstances, which never seem to stop! WHY?! We demand to know! Why me?! Then we want to blame everything and everyone else around us or the situation. They didn’t have to say it that way! Can you believe he did that! They don’t like me! This type of behavior is called projection. When we blame others for our own issues. Again the mirror thing.  We are really mad at ourselves. Mad that we allowed this to happen. Our inner child runs rampant with fear and causes all kinds of crazy behavior and reactions. This is part of the human journey for many. Not forgiving can manifest in all kinds of ways and colors. It’s not just pinpointing to one area, it is usually many areas of our lives which are affected. The dis-ease of carrying all that anger and hurt around within our being is a huge weight. We auto dispense it when it gets to be too great! Part of the trick is what I just explained earlier in this conversation. Prevention through logic and unconditional love. If it’s too late for that and the damage has been done, then do some meditation work around the person or situation. Write it out, take a picture of that person and draw a heart around it. Remember the good things this person brings to you, even if it’s hard to find right then. Make a tape recording and listen to it later, write a letter and put it away for a few days when you have a different light on things. I have found that if I take time to not react, and just be still until I get to a place that I have the greater understanding, I will not say a word until I have thought about it and what I want to say about it if anything. Most times, I find, it’s so NOT MY ISSUE! It’s the other person’s! I do not have to pick it up and FIX it! I do not have to FIX THEM either! So I can walk away, thinking to myself, I feel sorry for them being in such a place of pain they have to react this way. I instantly forgive them for they know not what they say or do….for if they did , surely they would not behave in this manner.

Here’s the nuts and bolts of it. THE LAWS OF CAUSE AND EFFECT AND KARMA. What we put out we get back three fold and sometimes more if we did it with malintent. Here let me say that just a tad bit louder so you can really HEAR IT! WHAT WE PUT OUT, WE GET BACK!

If you put out anger and hatred towards another person, then that is what we are going to attract to our lives. More people, more circumstances, same stories different actors. Holding onto anger and fear etc. Doesn’t affect the other person ONE LITTLE BIT! Who is getting affected? Who is sick and all high blood pressured out with tears and a headache and cannot eat?? Them! NOT! YOUUUUU! Why in the world would we do this to ourselves? Well, because those are all triggers to tell us to look at it, so we can just avoid it or accept it more easily the next round.

If you look at it this way, that this is self sabotaging and really counter productive to feeling happy, we can at this point make a different choice. We can choose to forgive them and pray for them that they get their lesson with ease and grace. Because we are all human. We are all subject to the same sets of lessons just in a different order. We cannot judge them, non forgiveness is a form of judgment. We have all been there at some point in some lifetime if you are an old soul. We get more of the lessons, because we already passed the semi final exams. In this lifetime we are in the finals. So all of our accumulated experiences in all lifetimes are coming to a nexus point. That is why all the bad stuff happens.

Or perceived bad, I try to not see things in duality anymore, things just ARE. Not good or bad , right or wrong. It’s not an easy thing to forgive, and to take responsibility for our own stuff. Nor is it easy to admit we need to forgive ourselves in addition to other people.

It’s important we forgive for ourselves, for our sake, our health and well being, for our spiritual growth. Otherwise it’s toxic and will like all poisons come out worse the longer it’s in our system.

Make a list of the important relationships in your life. What was the common message each brought to you? What are the patterns. In seeing them on a cognacant level we can then adjust our thinking and address the issues. Until then , until we can see it and admit it within ourselves. and believe me acceptance is at times the most difficult thing to do! Phew! A doozy in some instances! The key is to forgive, not necessarily forget, but forgive for sure. You will have learned a very valuable lesson if you learn this one well.

Love n light to one and All! xoxo Kimberly

Here’s a song that is always my theme song when the energies get thick!

Some beautiful reasons to forgive…..

Dr. Laura on Forgiveness

More from Dr. Laura

Letting go… Dr. Laura

that kinda reminded me of the story the hopi told that i posted last week!

This next video is the Gift of Forgiveness-Healing Humanity

Thought this was interesting too. I do not look for the videos until after I write what I think, just so you know. These are really good affirmations for me that what I am saying is good and true. Smiles. Thank you spirit for guiding me so well. Aho!

This is a good example of real forgiveness…..

I do hope you found these videos thought provoking and will lead you to journey within. God bless you each and everyone !

Until we meet again!

Love n Light and blessings!

Kimberly

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