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Our Own Petitelion Has Some Wisdom About How To Deal With Loneliness!!!

 By: Lianna Giovannoni

      It is highly improbable that anyone ever would decide to wake up one morning and declare to the universe to God “Let there be loneliness! Please God bless with the miracle of loneliness or ask for loneliness as they wish upon a star! Loneliness is not an item on anybodies “bucket list”( things they want to experience before they die) No loneliness is not one of those things that people find and are willing to die for or take an oath for ,devote their lives to. It is never included in a small child’s silent prayer before bedtime. There are no monuments, walls, plaques, etc. that have been erected in honor of loneliness, no encouraging or patriotic or devoted slogans for loneliness(Give me Loneliness or give me Death!LOL).Loneliness is relegated to stories and poems and those are referred to as tragedies or tragic poems.(Dictionary meaning: a medieval narrative poem or tale typically describing downfall of a someone. or a story,poem or play that ends in some misfortune., a serious drama typically describing a conflict between the protagonist and a superior force (as destiny) and having a sorrowful or disastrous conclusion that elicits pity or terror , the literary genre of tragic dramas, a disastrous event ( calamity misfortune). Yes, there are poems and stories etc. that use lonely or loneliness to describe something like the look of a tree or the sound of bird, like ” the only thing on this remote mountain were just clouds and lonely pines, or the only thing that could be heard in the dark was the lonely call of the owl”. The use of lonely or loneliness as a descriptor is probably one of it’s most positive attributes.

     Loneliness is worse than sad. Sad is an integer to the formula of loneliness, such as sad+(bleakness/desolate/alone)= loneliness or sadness x 2=loneliness….in other words lonely has sad in it. It is a darkness that eats you from the inside out.

     Alone is not lonely…Alone just means that you do not have company. Whereas lonely is an constant ache of absence, one that even if you are surrounded by people you feel isolated, alone, bleak, desolate, imprisoned by some invisible wall. Loneliness lays dormant in everyone of us waiting for the right catalyst to wake it up and begin to thrive and grow. There are an infinite amount of catalysts out there, as many as their are feeling creatures and beings in the universe. No one or no living feeling, thinking, being or creature is immune. Although some seem not to suffer from it’s grip as much but they do not have a complete immunity. I’ve even seen pets express loneliness and sorrow, like when on owner dies or when another of the household animals die or leave. I, personally watched with my pets this , we had a male and a female Siamese cats that were pretty much raised together, and when the slightly older male passed away,the female literally cried, would not eat, and even pulled out big patches of her own fur out. She would go each day for weeks to each of the heat register looking for him (for the last 3 years or so of the male cat Robert had a touch of arthritis and would lay on those to loosen his stiff muscles in the morning or when it was very cold weather) she would look for him and she would see he was not there, she would look up at me with such a sadness in her eyes and in her body language and she would let a sad wail that sounded almost like a young woman crying out in loneliness, despair. It was heart wrenching, she would not let anyone console her or touch her.

     Loneliness can not only come from loosing someone thru death, or absence but from a perception that no one can understand or relate to you or that you don’t fit in for some perceived belief or story that you told yourself that somehow you are different or less than and that no one is there that wants or would desire to share life with you experiencing all of life’s ups and downs, no one to share the joys and sorrows, no one that would or could understand you or would share or care the same opinion as to what you consider significant. That there would no one to make memories with that you can share together later no one to enjoy the little things in life with. Sometimes when there is a loss of a person you life such as a life partner, husband/wife or a best friend that you shared all of those things with for a long time, when they are no longer in your life due to death or a breakup because of that loss and the grief that comes from that it may seem to you that you will never be able to find anyone to fill that space in life the void left from those kinds of loss can create such a deep grief that it creates a wall of despair and an over the top feeling alone. Because of that deep loss because of the grief a very pervasive and unique type of loneliness ensues and nothing or no one will be able to change that sense of aloneness the grief of the loss the darkness the sadness that is gripping you, except for going thru your grieving process and the healing effect of time.

     Loneliness can also awaken and grow when you feel so different from those around you that you convince yourself to believe that there will never be anyone for you. You can experience and create a prison of loneliness when you perceive that an impenetrable barrier exists between you and everyone else due to language and/or cultural differences or you moved to a new area where you don’t know anyone or if you suddenly get ill or disabled or anything that you perceive as a barrier between you and other people.

     First of all like I mentioned before, alone is not lonely. A lot of times, alone is what is preferred,wanted and sometimes what is needed. It is important to be comfortable with your own company and to be confident that you are a complete whole individual rather than feeling that you are not enough or that you are incomplete. Sometimes alone is necessary for your mental and/or physical well being. Alone gives us the best way to get perspective for yourself to gain clarity on life decisions , be alone with your thoughts gives us time to meditate, process things or events, gives the opportunity to quiet the chatter of your conscious mind to reduce stress, connect with your higher self or with the Higher power, to ground yourself,or just to have sometime to not be distracted or influenced by others to just to get to know your true nature without any input from others.

     Back to lonely now….First of all I want to say “YOU ARE NOT YOUR EMOTIONS YOU ARE NOT YOUR STORY! AND ALWAYS BE PRESENT!”. Having made those statements I want you to understand that I will be clarifying those shortly, so just keep them in your mind to the side. It will come together just bear with me thank you. What I am about to say can be applied to any emotional response but we are discussing lonely at the moment so if you find yourself asking the question “what about sad, or anxious just substitute the appropriate word for the word lonely okay? So here goes nothing!! Lonely is an emotion that you tied to the story you told yourself or bought into from someone else that your ego told to respond with to with the current situation that you seem to be experiencing at the present time. If we realize before you respond to the ego’s advice that all the emotions is just a list of emotional responses that you have available to choose from as the emotional response to the situations that you perceive you are experiencing as you move thru each moment in your life. Yes Virginia “YOU CHOOSE WHAT EMOTION YOU WANT TO FEEL in response to your perception of the reality of the situation that you are experiencing ” not the other way around. I know right now most of you are saying to yourself (I can’t help what I feel, I control what I feel they just happen, they just are! Yes, I know it may seem that way, because most of us for most of our lives our ego and all the other egos that you have been around throughout your life from the time of your birth, the ones you learned from and emulated as you were growing up have led you to believe (thru no fault of their own) and reinforced over and over one of the great human untruth list is that “We are at the mercy of our emotions” That they own you, they are calling the shots as to your emotional responses. Well guess what? That is the human ego’s ploy to get you to keep you believing that it is real so it can continue to exist and be in control keep you trapped by fear which creates resistance to soul expansion and to create a prison, to put a barrier to blind you to the truth so to speak and continue to buy into the falsehood, the false perception of the reality of your true nature, to state that plainly… to continue the illusion of “That you are at the mercy of your emotions and the story you tied them to, that you don’t have a choice in the matter”! Now, I’m not saying that people and situations, and old programs that you bought into for one reason or another don’t make it hard to choose a more positive emotional response. Let me just briefly give you a side note to this. I want you to understand that with the aforementioned “old programs that you bought into” It is nobody’s fault that you bought into that there was some wrong doing or error in discernment or that you are “stupid and should have known better!”, that is not it at all. It is just one of those human challenges that all of face so that we learn and grow and evolve. It is built into the system of the human process of growth. No one is exempt, no one has the knack or talent to not buy into old programming, because when you bought into them they were necessary for your survival at the moment but once they are loaded onto your hard drive it is difficult to know when or to remember to delete them. Know this “EVERYONE IS CHALLENGED BY THIS AND HAS THE SAME DIFFICULTY AS YOU IT IS JUST PART OF LIFE!” so “DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR IT PLEASE”!!!! It is just one of those things that is a standard catalysts for all beings to challenge us to learn and adjust and change things in the present so that we can have the opportunity to expand our souls, evolve as spiritual beings having a human experience. Bottom line,it is just part of life!Just like when we grew to adults from being children the average person’s bones lengthen and grow larger, and in puberty we get hair in places that we didn’t have as children, it is just part of becoming, well so is the program buying into thing. Again you are not your story nor are you your emotions. Anyone who tries to tell you or convince differently ….This is what I have to say to them….QUACK! Yes quack! Check this out, your emotions are yours! Yes folks, those puppies are yours to command! Yes, you too can choose what to feel as a response to stuff! Like I said before things, situations and people may make it more difficult to choose a positive emotional response, but with some effort and practice you can do it. As with anything that you learn, especially when it comes to changing old habits, old programs that we have used forever that really in the present do not serve us anymore it takes a minute to become successful at right away. Be patient with yourself do your best to remember to make the effort to slow yourself down, take a breath and as you do this stop the auto pilot decision making process and stop and take the time to think and ask yourself,”How can I stay in the present and choose a best emotional response for what I am truly experiencing now?…not based on what you responded to a similar story from your past that ego is trying to convince you still are but, on who you truly are from you true nature, from your high self, now in this present moment.With the intent of doing it for the highest good for yourself and the highest good of all. It does get easier as you go along and each time you remember to do this the closer you come to do it effortlessly and with a 100% success rate, and really you will be surprised that it will happen easier and quicker than you think! You may be asking yourself,” well how does this apply to loneliness? ” well, I will tell you. When you sense it creeping in and ego begins it’s existence saving dance running it’s jib in your head, trying to convince you to buy into it’s sales pitch. Take the time to look at the story or thought processes or beliefs behind why you are leaning towards choosing lonely as your emotional response, why this emotion is tied to the story why the ego is trying to convince you that this is the response that you need so desperately(from ego’s perspective) to respond with, why this present situation triggered ego to know it is time to get it’s licks in, why ego needs you to respond this way, what is ego’s motive and how this particular? response helps ego to maintain it’s illusionary existence? Ego is like when you were a kid and you had an imaginary friend that keeps sabotaging and causing trouble and because no one else can see them you get blamed for it’s pervasive behavior. Ego like the imaginary friend is forever trying to convince you that it is real, like Pinocchio before the fairy godmother got to him-he is not real and never will be , he will only able to fool you into thinking it is real and that you are the puppet! Well it is time to take back your throne be the ruler of your reality! It is time to pinch yourself and wake up and see that you aren’t the puppet and ego the puppeteer that you are the master puppeteer and ego is the wooden puppet! You are the creator and the master and ruler of your emotions and ego, they are to do your bidding, they are your subjects and not subject to them! When you are suffering with loneliness or that the situation that you are participating in is one that perhaps the all time best scenario for loneliness to thrive and grow and in the present moment you are not able to see a way out from your current perspective reality, that there could no other choice for you. Stop and without hesitation but with complete faith that no matter what things seem like it is truly an illusion do not believe it for one second!!!!!Tell loneliness to get out of town take a long walk off a short pier, take a hike! Turn and face it and see that it is just an illusion. Find your voice… use your imagination and create for yourself a much better reality for yourself by pulling yourself out of the illusion and create the new true perception of reality in your mind. Realize that emotions and stories come and go. Nothing stays the same, things change all the time, nothing is static. Even if it seems to you that it is the lowest worst moment of loneliness of sadness in the world and that is no way out of it could never ever change…Stop, breath, look at the story behind all of that fear, all the loneliness that you tied to that story, or belief/thoughts that aren’t you , are not in the present not your true nature, just not real and pull yourself out of your illusionary perspective and change your perspective to one that serves you better in this present moment, even if it is to incorporate this thought, It won’t be like this forever it will change because nothing is static. Maybe Close your eyes and hold on to that little bit and release the emotion(loneliness) as the emotional response to the present perspective of the situation . Say out loud if you want or just think it, it works either way, it is your coloring book your crayons, I Release it , let it go – then look at some other more positive way to perceive the situation as to why you are experiencing this based purely in the present moment from your true highest self change it to perhaps as an example: Maybe if I see this as something as this situation isn’t about choosing this to be bad but rather a gift of the opportunity to find a better way see this situation as a plus rather than a negative, an opportunity to gain than a loss, that it is for you not against you. you could change this into you have the opportunity to become a hero and to receive blessings by sacrificing and experiencing a little discomfort so that someone else will get an opportunity to get the chance to expand their soul their skill sets raise their vibration by getting a chance at to allow someone their chance to discern and choose to be compassionate, to recognize that one of their own needs their help , to motivate them to learn to be a better expression of God having a human experience, by motivating them to choose to become a more loving kind person, awaken them to their true nature, more of a true human being and discern and choose love and compassion recognize it is the time to give and transform themselves and receive blessings and grace which raises their vibration which raises the vibration of all humans. For your small sacrifice you not only do you get to be a hero and give someone a chance to receive blessings you get the chance to raise the whole humanity but you get to receive blessings and grace and to raise your self up which also does the same for all. So the point is look how much can be accomplished, look at the scope of the effect of just a small change in the way you choose to see things, change your perception of reality and your emotional response to things. It is so a win win win win situation for such a small amount of effort that it is just mind boggling for me. What a small thing to have to experience or that you have to put effort to accomplish so much.

So by changing in ways like this, taking that pause that moment, to slow down take that breath and adjust your perception of reality, let the old programming that no longer serves you go and eliminate that the loneliness story is tied to and choose a more positive emotional response to the present situation you become a big hero and everyone gets blessings.

     There are many surface ways to help you to accomplish these things to help with the changing your perceptions of reality of situations that you are experiencing with loneliness and it’s fertile ground for growth. Yes, surface ways, like joining a class that improves you, your body, your mind like yoga, or a class at your local junior college or something that you would like to see if it is something you might be interested in, there are many avenues for this such as local city town or rural community centers that offer adult classes at night or weekends etc. for things like arts and crafts, exercise, or dance, music, Internet and computer, parenting, golf, yoga and so on. These are good ways to break down some of the perceived barriers and to connect and meet people with similar interests. This a good way for humans to help prevent that fertile ground for loneliness. Some other surface ways are to join a spiritual group, or join a church or religious group of your own choice and persuasion, or create your own group of your choosing such as rock hunting, paranormal group, science, book reading, or whatever subject matter that floats your boat because I guarantee you aren’t alone in your interests. If you are sure how to find those people for the group[ you want to create, here are some tried and true suggestions for that issue. Advertise on your local bulletin boards in your local grocery stores etc, community centers, church and meeting centers, community colleges and adult education centers, freebie newspapers , or on the Internet sites like Facebook and Twitter or Crisis type sites. Volunteer for various charities in your community. If language is a barrier go to your local community centers and adult education centers or churches or spiritual centers and take a class in the pertinent language and from there you will find people with similar language barriers as you. If it is cultural thing, learn about the culture that you are living in, expand your being with knowledge and truth and with the knowledge you can understanding and release the fear and encourage tolerance in yourself and others or teach others about the truth of your culture which also helps others to release ignorance and fear and allows tolerance and compassion an understanding to grow. This not only helps to ward off the loneliness thing but it raises the vibrations for all. If you are disabled or are not able to go out and about, create a group that again is something that you are interested in or create a social network group of disabled or inside bound people or if you are elderly and are homebound etc. this social network group is applicable also, you can connect thru phone, or the Internet or something like Skype which is free thru the computer and you can have several people be able to meet virtually without ever leaving there residences. If you are able to each get an Internet video cameras for your computers you can actually see each other. Nowadays those kinds of things are fairly inexpensive and there are various federal, state and local programs that could help you. Don’t give up if you want to help yourself to choose something more positive this is a real good tried and true way to begin that process.When we take the initiative and realize we are the creators of our realities and do these little things it reaffirms to the universe what you want and need it is like an active prayer, it reaches into the Creator’s toy box and pulls out and brings to you the thing you want that is for highest good which with that intent brings the highest good of all. It brings the real magic that is in us by our birthright as the children of God. What it does, to put it another way, it allows you to connect and have the opportunity to find and share with you fellow human beings common interests and it changes the parameters of the situation and brings in the fertile ground for growth for the positive, breaks down your perception that there are barriers and replaces the barriers with clear smooth avenues to accomplish what just recently you perceived as impossible. This will make the growth of the possibility of loneliness less of a possibility to happen. I’m not saying it will eliminate it altogether at this moment of our existence but it will take it from a high and impossible to get over mountain to in the least a small hill that you face and if enough of us take this perspective it will a some point become a mere speed bump. It is however a step closer for all of us one day to make something that has been highly improbable to eliminate from the human experience to be eliminated within the human experience. All it takes is one person to tell or show one person and it will catch on and once again you can know that YOU ARE A HERO!

      So to recap for you, “You are not your story nor are you your emotions. Become aware and notice the story, the thoughts, the beliefs, the perception of reality that loneliness (or any negative emotions) that you have tied to those stories or beliefs. Release it. Take the moment to pause and take a breath ,and stop and think and decide and become aware change your perception of the reality of the situation, be present and choose the best positive emotional response ( and the list of all the positive is available for you to choose all the time with no exceptions!) based on who you truly are in the present moment. Play with them and discern the best one that serves you highest good and the highest good of all. Then congratulations are in order because you are now on the best and fastest road to becoming a hero in your own right to making loneliness(and if you apply that mind set to sad, despair, etc it will do the same for those) all those painful soul expanding and suffering causing catalyst for humanity evolving cease to exist in this current human experience(at minimize them enough that they are speed bumps instead of impossible to climb over mountains). For sure it is a fact it help you when it is your turn to experience those painful moments, you will be able to move thru them with the greatest of ease and grace and receive blessings for yourself and all humanity.

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Greetings and Salutations One and All! I hope the week has been a blessing for you all and that you enjoyed the energies that came in with the 10 10 10! Things are definitely accelerating. It’s been amazing to watch! This week on the show we have a legend joining us! Norman Shine! Internationally acclaimed numerologist and astrologer. This man will blow you away! He’s simply brilliant! You are going to want to have a pen and paper when you listen to this interview because he is gonna just come with it and give you some amazing techniques and answers. So let’s find out a bit more about this amazing man!

 

Norman Shine is an internationally acclaimed author for his books and techniques using astrology and numerology and magik boxes to determine all sorts of things in life! He is currently in Denmark and doing very well in his garden as you can see from the picture above. His books are, ” Numerology: Your Character and Future Revealed in Numbers” and ” Numerology: Reveal Your True Character and Destiny with Numbers” and also ” THE INSTANT NUMEROLOGIST” His unique technique is still studied today and we are honored to have him on the show!

Norman Shine has been a consultant numerologist and astrologer more than 15 years, following a distinguished academic career. He is much in demand as a public lecturer and as a radio and television broadcaster on both subjects, and has written successful books on numerology. He lives in Copenhagen, Denmark.

Tell me your name, and I will tell you who you are. Give me your date of birth, and I will show you your future.

The hidden meaning and power of numbers has been studied since ancient times. Just as astrologers use the planets and signs of the zodiac to explore relationships and predict the future, so do numerologists use numbers. Now, by following numerologist Norman Shine’s clearly illustrated, easy-to-understand system, anyone can access and use the energy and power of numbers.

Each letter of the alphabet has numerical value, and each number is an energy source. It is the way that these energies combine and relate to one another that determines how and why you behave the way you do; by comparing your numbers with another person’s, you can explore your relationship to them. Plot the numbers of your birthday, and you can see the direction of your future.

This article also appears online

August 27, 2004

Renowned numerologist Norman Shine launches book for India

Norman Shine, world renowned and arguably Europe’s best Numerologist launched his latest work in India. The book titled “The Divinity of Numbers: The SAlence of Numerology” published by Thapovanam Publishers was launched on Tuesday at Oxford Bookstore(Churchgate) in Mumbai.

The launch held at Oxford bookstore featured an interactive session conducted by Norman Shine titled “Knowing yourself better through Numerology”. Norman also highlighted his research and clear myths surrounding Numerology. The audiences availed of a personal consultation with the author. Mr. Rajiv Chowdhry, COO, e.books World Pvt. Ltd., which owns Oxford Bookstores, opines “Experience has proved that books on occult like numerology and astrology enjoy large readership in India, and with Norman’s popularity in Europe he is expected to be a big draw in India. It is a pleasure to have him with us at Oxford Bookstore.”

The book gives an in depth analysis and clears myths like “Changing names can change fortunes” among others that surround numerology in India. Says Raman Chaudhuri , Vice President, Thapovanam Publishers, “The book also has a interactive CD, which acts like personal numerologist for the reader. The reader can feed in his name and birthday date and get an in-depth analysis of his character and other relevant information like the important years in his life” .

Norman Shine’s association with India and its culture is deep rooted. An ardent devotee of Shree Satya Sai Baba , Norman is well versed in the symbolism of Indian culture: he firmly believes that the Vedas are the core essence of Numerology. Says Norman, “We are all here in this world for the sole purpose of resolving our karmas”.

Norman Shine has been a consultant numerologist and astrologer for more than 15 years, following a distinguished academic career. Norman Shine is without doubt the only numerologist in Scandinavia and among a very few in Europe to be known worldwide, where there are many astrologers, however only a handful of Numerologists. He is much in demand as a public lecturer and as a radio and television broadcaster on both subjects, and has written successful books on numerology.

Norman Shine virtually introduced Numerology to Denmark in the Early 1980’s. Through his books, written both in the Scandinavian languages and in English, are read widely throughout the world. His contribution as the only Numerologist in the “World Atlas of Divination”, a highly prestigious compendium of all the divination systems employed throughout the world, is evidence of the supreme position he enjoys globally within Numerology. Norman Shine is a lecturer on Numerology in the University of the Shankara Acharya at Kanchi and the University of Copenhagen.

Norman Shine’s book named “Numerology: Your Character and Future Revealed in Numbers” (1995) has sold over 5.5 lakh copies worldwide and has been translated to German, Spanish, Portuguese, Serbo-Croat, Czech, Hungarian, Polish. Norman Shine plans to start a School of Numerology called “The Shine Institute of Numerology” in Mumbai, in the coming year.

Source: http://www.indiainfoline.com/bize/renu.html

I do hope that you all will join us! If you submit your name and date and time and place of birth, we might be able to get Norman to evaluate them at illuminationsoflight@yahoo.com!

Be well everyone!

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Greetings and Salutations One and All! I do hope this blog entry finds you all well and happy! We have  a tremendous show for you this week! Ms. Caitriona Reed will be joining us for the show this October 19, 2010! 9pm MST on blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight.

We thought we would give you a close up on this amazing lady and all that she is doing!

Caitríona Reed has been a facilitator of Personal and Organizational Change for more than twenty-five years. She facilitates workshops, retreats, and trainings internationally.

She integrates her lifelong work in Hypnosis, and as a Master Trainer of Neurological Repatterning and NLP, with her background in Deep Ecology, Global Process Work, and Zen. She received formal recognition as a Zen teacher from renowned Zen Master and Nobel nominee, Thich Nhat Hanh, in 1992.

She currently works as a catalyst of transformational change to help individuals, organizations and entrepreneurs towards thrive in a continually changing social, economic, and global environment.

She is co-founder of Manzanita Village Retreat, and the Five Changes Process. She lives with her partner of thirty years, Michele Benzamin-Miki, in Southern California.

She is author of The Thirty Pressing Questions, a year-long training curriculum integrating perspectives for personal change.

Here are the links to her various projects:

Manzanita Village

CaitrionaReed.com

Programs:

Choosing Personal Freedom

NLP Alchemy

Be sure to tune in for this very special show! Tuesday Night 9pm MST at www.blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight

Love n Light to One and All!

xo

Kimberly


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Greetings and salutations! One and All! I do hope this blog entry finds you well and happy. It has been a crazy week for me on a personal level as well as the professional level. But I wanted to keep the momentum going with this entry of our blog series on relationships. We have covered in past entries the ideas of co dependence and independence, however, we have never covered the idea of inter-dependence. This is a new term that I created to explain the concept of a partnership. These ideas that I am discussing are uni-sexual and universal. They can be applied to any relationship in existence. The reason that I feel it is necessary to create this new concept is that we are moving towards this with the shifts that are coming. How do we put action to making it “we” and not “me”. How do we take the first steps to becoming community minded again instead of overly independent and isolated?

I do not think that I have all the answers or all the parts but I can see how some of it can work. So I only ask that you read these ideas with an open mind and expand on them if you are so inspired and share those thoughts with the world. Leave a comment. I respond to all legitimate comments. So moving onto the concepts first.

Community to my definition is this: ” A gathering of beings working in harmony and cooperation with one another.”

I see this as the third phase if you will because really it begins within yourself and extends to your immediate friends and families and thus it naturally evolves to a community. There are many communities large and small. It’s not the size that matters in this instance. The idea behind a “community” is to work together in cooperation. Now this sounds really great in theory and in an ideal world that would work. It takes a solid commitment of common thinking to make something like this work. For example. Terminology. People as wonderfully different as they are will look at something and have a totally different take on what it is they see. The same idea holds true when they describe things. How often have you said to another person, “that’s not what I meant!” So definition of terms is imperative to healthy communication.

Cooperation: We have learned over the course of the past few millennia to be competative not cooperative with one another. In this shift which is coming there needs to be a cooperation between ourselves and the world around us. Money or it’s concept no longer serves us. I do not have all of the answers but what I do know is that there is no good reason that there are people who are lacking anything in this world. There is enough resources on this planet to sustain 100 billion people if we all worked together to balance that out.

Courtesy/Manners/Respect- People in this age of “Me”, have forgotten some very basic things in life. That people are people for one and for another, that we should treat others the way we would wish to be treated. With kindness, compassion, understanding, tolerance, respect. Words like ” I’m sorry” or “Thank you” or ” Please” go a long ways. Remembering that coming at someone offensively will cause the reactions of defensive manuevers. That a man’s word is golden, if you say you are going to do something then follow through with it, and if something should come up then communicate that with the person you made the promise to.

Communication: Talking, Texting, Writing letters, Computers, Telephones, Smoke signals. Throughout time man has found many creative ways to communicate what is in one’s head. From hieroglyphs to artwork of all kinds and music and story telling and tapestry to architecture and technology. We have found many ways to communicate with each other because we as human beings are communal creatures. We are social. We enjoy the interaction with others around us. We have lost the gift of mind reading which was our original forms of communication. We lost that ability when we fell into the third dimension. As part of the awakening and remembering, this gift is slowly being restored. Thus the words of Christ, “And the darkness shall come to the light, there will be no more secrets, no more lies…” because if we can read each other’s thoughts we have no way or place to “hide” anything. That is an illusion.

To live as two individuals, loving unconditionally in the present moment and working toward a common good is not an easy combination to find. There is a fine balance in inter-dependence. When you are in a partnership, the advantages are that you are not alone, if one falls short in an area the other can assist in making that up with their strengths. This is different then two people as one. We all have our paths and lessons in life. To release judgments and expectations can be a challenge for many. To release the need to control anything is also a challenge for most people. We do not realize how often we come from a place of needing to control people and situations. We must become cognoscente of these times when we are falling into emotional reactions and old programming. It is helpful if you are involved with another who is of like mind so that you may help each other in the recognition of when you are playing the old tapes. The old saying of ” You are the company you keep” holds some truth to it. For what you surround yourself with or feed into your mind is what is in your heart and eventually comes out of the mouth and it feeds like a perpetual circle. So the way to break free from this cycle is to change the response and change the environment and change the input in general. Surround yourself with things that are going to help you achieve your goal of peace and tranquility on a constant basis. Surrounding yourself with positive people is a start. Listening to soothing music instead of angry music is another place that we can change what we feed our brain. These are all things to help us remember that we are whole and secure within our freedom and do not require dependence but choose to be engaged in an inter-dependent , inter-active relationship.

When I first started to think about this whole idea, I went through the list of friends I had in my life. I really got honest about what it was I was gaining from having these people in my life. How have they served me and were there any there who didn’t serve me. I also had to make a decision about what was a friend to me. Applying the terminology again. I had determined that most of the people in my life were in fact NOT friends, but more acquaintances and business associates. That was a rude awakening for me. I had found that I was being a friend and giving more in the relationships then I was receiving and as a result I found that I was getting drained in my energies on a daily basis. When I made the choice to no longer allow the imbalances to take place, those people were taken out of my life, either by my own hand or by circumstance. I also had to work it as I have said earlier in this article, to just let things and people be what they are.

Here is an example. I recently had a guest who had forgotten to mark their appearance on our show, they subsequently didn’t make the appearance. Now, most people would have been hurt or insulted or upset, and I have to admit that I too would have been counted among those people a year ago. Instead my new reaction now was that all things happen for a reason and there are no accidents. This person had some place else to be and that was totally ok and things worked out in the end and so no harm no foul. This left both people feeling as if it was a win win situation. By choosing a different reaction, the response could have left a much more destructive and negative taste in both mouths. But by understanding that things happen, mistakes can be made and that it all works out in the end as it should anyway, to have that total faith that it will all be ok and that it is meant to be. Even when things do not work out in the way we had hoped it is usually for the better.

Not holding expectations on other people or their actions. Again the need to control. If you limit the universe in outcomes or if you place expectation then you are setting yourself up for instant disappointment. If you just go with the flow and not attach the outcome it usually works out better then you expected in your mind.This is much easier in theory then in practice. It takes great conscious effort to allow others to be and to BE yourself. To detach from the emotional body and to control the thoughts and to come from a place of peace. Too often we give too much of ourselves and things in relationships become unbalanced. There needs to be an exchange of energy on some level in a dualistic reality. In the oneness all just IS.

Can human beings achieve inter-dependence? Hard to say. I believe I have seen couples do this on occasion. To be independent, lead independent lives, but still be together. As ” The Profit” states. Like two pillars holding things up, but standing separately, both eat bread but not of the same loaf. To find that balance where two can be in sanctuary and not in a place of beholden or fear. I believe that we have to come to a place of humility and a willingness to work with others in realizing that many hands make less work, but all parties must be willing to do their part. One’s input doesn’t have to be the same work, but a portion of it.

Some interesting musings on inter-dependence and partnerships. What are your thoughts?

Until next time, in Love n Light and Oneness of Heart,

xoxo

Kimberly


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Greetings and Salutations One and All! This has been quite a time energetically, it’s like a huge ebbing of the energetic tides and we are getting ready for a tsunami of a love wave like no other! So right now we are seeing a lot of huge changes in people and their circumstances. As a part of the change we are also re aligning with people who are more in our frequency ranges. So we thought we would do a series of articles this month on the topic of relationships. How to navigate them, how to find new ones, how to overcome hurts of old ones that no longer serve your highest good. Both Lianna and I will be submitting articles surrounding this very personal and interesting subjects, the human relationship. Today I would like to tackle the topic of SOULMATES, TWIN FLAMES AND YOU!

What is a soulmate:

A soul mate is a person who is cut from your same cloth. It can be anyone. Your mother in a past life can be your wife in this one. We are constantly incarnating together in different roles to expand our own experience and to balance out the things which need to be balanced.  More often then not, spiritually speaking, soul mates can  bring to the table a great deal of love, a remembrance of lives gone by. This feeling can be so strong in some instances it becomes addicting like a drug to feel that same wonderfully great feeling of love. However, the down side to this is that we are often not meant to recreate a great love affair in this lifetime. We are here for different reasons and this is where most people get messed up with all this. They think because they recognize that person they are meant to be! NOT always the case! In fact, I would say there are more who are not to be then who are.  The purpose of relationships is to accelerate the learning curve. As we interact with each other we continue  to expand our experiences to become whole people. We use others to assist us in this process and they agree to it before you ever arrive on the stage of life.

Then there are those who we have such a strong bond with that it is almost impossible to get them out of your mind because you are so extremely connected with that person. For those of you who have never had this type of an intense connection where you are completely at oneness with another soul then you will probably have some difficulty in wrapping your head around this type of intense love. It is like being addicted to a drug or a habit, as previously mentioned. You cannot function in life’s normal daily activities for your thoughts are consumed like a fire in your heart and head. You eat , drink , sleep this person even when you are fighting you still have that constant love connection. Love doesn’t change or alter, it does however have a double edged sword. With this type of Love when the two are apart it can create total chaos in ones life! You feel as if a part of you has been removed from your body! You feel as if life is just not quite in sync with this person not a part of your world . You cannot seem to function beyond auto pilot. You continue in life much as a zombie. Putting on a happy face when all the while you are dying inside to know how that person is, what are they doing, what are they thinking. Some would call this obsessive compulsive in some ways it can very much mimic that, but this is a different type of deal, this is your heart is sick, being love sick. Even when you succeed at creating a physical separation through marriage or relocation that feeling never goes away, the Love is constant. These types of feelings are more recognized in the romantic relationships but the same can hold true for best friends and family members or a pet. I have been blessed to have experienced soul recognition in many people I have met over the years! Some of them just recently. These types of connections are really wonderful because of the intensity of them for personal awareness, refinement and experience. It helps us to grow stronger to know what we really want or don’t want. To help us get over ourselves with regard to fear, control, or lack of control, self doubt, self pity all of the things that would be negative in today’s definitions of a whole person. Often times we make the mistake of seeing the persons inside and their potential rather then where they truly are, as we have discussed in previous blog entries. If you have one person who is awake and can recognize the other party for who they are in Spirit, yet the other party is asleep and doesn’t believe in such things, this can be an interesting challenge especially for healers and empaths. We have a natural “thing” within us that wants to fix everything because we know we can. We attract the broken and crazy because they recognize that healing energy within. Also there is those who will feel the energy of Love running through you and they recognize the feelings of “home” or being in the oneness of Love, but it is not the person they love it’s the energy they carry! Once that drunk in Spirit wears off, that other person will often go upon their own personal journey without you and usually with another. This is a regular occurence for those who have the path of opening hearts.

So again a soulmate can be anyone, not limited to romance.

Soul Groups what are they?

Soul groups are beings who again are from a group of souls or beings made from the same fiber. Often time our soulmates on Earth are chosen from this “group”. However, in this day and age, I will say that I have seen a lot of cross marriages taking place. Meaning, different houses are forming alliances within resonating soul groups, the result is new genetics to accommodate the future generation’s frequencies.

Twin Flames

It is rare, very rare, that a true twin flame will incarnate within the same lifetime.  In some instances, if the energy is too great or there is a mission/purpose a soul can split into multiple bodies thus creating the twin self on earth. For this reason, the other half our ourselves is usually on the other side assisting us. However, it is not impossible. Nothing is. But more often then not, twin flames do not cross in the same lifetime. I would however agree that there are more sets now then ever before just because of the opportunities to clear karmic issues.

Partnerships are the more common truth in relationships. It often times has nothing to do with love which is a true shame, it’s all about comfort zones and settling for less because you believe that’s all you can achieve or ever have.

That limited thinking is just that. Anything is possible and as long as it’s within divine alignment for your soul plan then it not only can happen but will likely happen.

The problem comes in when we have expectations to a desired outcome. We torture ourselves trying to make square pegs fit into round holes.

We want this person to love us as much as we love them, well in the case where one is asleep the other awakened that is not usually possible. Due to different perceptions as to what is happiness. What is love or friendship by each individuals perceptions is always going to be different. To make relationships of any kind work, there must be a common view of life and common definitions of those terms. It takes a mutual dedication to work things through and not to run away and hide when things get difficult. To trust so that all communication can be honest without fear of repercussions. To be mature enough to be honest with yourself first and those around you. To be determined and patient enough to allow the other person to be all they are, good bad and ugly! We so often want to control or just change this or that to make things work. We need to begin to realize that sometimes when we are holding too tightly we have to let it go so that it can grow into the reality of what we see in that person. We are learning I believe in this time frame the ground rules for being inter-dependent with one another, rather then being co-dependent or too in-dependent or just dependent period.  I will go more into the concept of inter dependence in a later blog.

A soulmate can be a beautiful thing, it can be a giant nightmare to others, usually involving high emotional roller coaster feelings. Just remember, be careful what you ask for or focus on the universe will provide!

I hope this clears up the idea of “soulmates” for people and please, if you have any questions or I can clarify better, please do not hesitate to comment! I will get back to you!

Thanks for reading! xoxo Kimberly

Here are a few other people’s thoughts on “soulmates”.


This entry is rated R for adult language and topics but is full of truths….


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Greetings and Salutations One and All! It’s been an absolutely fantastic week for me this week and I will be writing more about this in a future blog this week!  But for this entry I would like to focus on our amazing guest for this week’s show! ANTOINE JABBOUR joins the Angel on the show this week to speak on many topics including tolerance and compassion.

Tony is an amazing person and has so much to share with all of you! I cannot wait for you all to meet him! He is M.A. Applied Spiritual Psychology, B.Sc., CHt. Certified Hypnotherapist,

Quantum Touch, Theta Healing DNA I & II, Emotional Freedom Techniques-Advanced, Biopulsar Biofeedback, Certified.

He is an amazing teacher and has his own practice in the Southern California area.

In his own words,

About me and my mission

Regardless of how we look and what language we speak, I believe that we are all ONE, the Human Family. Deep inside of us, we all have the same desires: to feel safe, to Love and be loved, to live a happy and meaningful life, to be healthy, joyful and successful in every way, and to be free.

My background is extensive and rich in education and life experiences: M.A. Applied Spiritual Psychology, B.Sc. Engineering, Certified Hypnotherapist, Quantum Touch, Theta Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques, and many other modalities in Energy Psychology, Metaphysics, Unexplained Phenomenon, and much more. I have been facilitating personal change and groups for over 13 years; read the Testimonials section to know more about me.

I have woven all this knowledge and experience together, through the meeting of Science and Spirituality, the Physical and Non-Physical, which enables me to relate to people from all backgrounds.

With help from Higher Guidance and the use of the most tecnologically advanced Biofeedback equipment, I facilitate the creation of positive shifts and changes in your life, to assist you in moving forward and creating the life of your dreams. I am committed to your transformation to having more Freedom, Better Health, Happy Relationships, and experience more Joy and Abundance in your life.”

About me and my mission

Regardless of how we look and what language we speak, I believe that we are all ONE, the Human Family. Deep inside of us, we all have the same desires: to feel safe, to Love and be loved, to live a happy and meaningful life, to be healthy, joyful and successful in every way, and to be free.

My background is extensive and rich in education and life experiences: M.A. Applied Spiritual Psychology, B.Sc. Engineering, Certified Hypnotherapist, Quantum Touch, Theta Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques, and many other modalities in Energy Psychology, Metaphysics, Unexplained Phenomenon, and much more. I have been facilitating personal change and groups for over 13 years; read the Testimonials section to know more about me.

I have woven all this knowledge and experience together, through the meeting of Science and Spirituality, the Physical and Non-Physical, which enables me to relate to people from all backgrounds.

With help from Higher Guidance and the use of the most tecnologically advanced Biofeedback equipment, I facilitate the creation of positive shifts and changes in your life, to assist you in moving forward and creating the life of your dreams. I am committed to your transformation to having more Freedom, Better Health, Happy Relationships, and experience more Joy and Abundance in your life.”

You are powerful beyong Measure

–—Marianne Williamson

it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other

people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

This is just a bit of the information you will find on Tony’s website! www.beautifulmindzone.com
Be sure to tune in this Tuesday Night 9pm MST! www.blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight.

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Greetings and Salutations One and All! Well it’s finally here! And we have a final set of hints about our mystery guest this week! She is currently forming GoddessSchool101 she is an active and practicing energy worker. She graduated college with a degree in Broadcasting and worked in the radio industry for awhile has re-invented herself and helped hundreds of people in her lifetime. She’s a complete light and full of life and joy. If you have not figured it out yet who she is, I do hope that you will tune in tonight and meet this amazing lady of light. She has so much to offer humanity and just lights up a room with her energetic smile and heart! You can only be blessed to spend some time with us tonight and really get to know this gracious gal.

She classifies herself as a master results coach and works with people in all areas of their life. This includes their environments, their over all well being, mind, body and spirit and even their wardrobes! She is so full of knowledge on so many levels, there is not going to be enough time to cover it all, but we are going to do our very best to give you all a well rounded view of all this woman is about and has accomplished and has yet to come! It should be a really fun show tonight and if you cannot make it we will have it revealed to everyone by the next show! I hope you all have enjoyed our mystery guest concept this week, I know it’s been fun for us! Giggles. I look forward to hearing your questions and thoughts on some of these things we will be discussing. This next few weeks on the show will be very useful and enlightening for many I hope, we have some amazing guests coming up and the fun never stops! 9pm MST blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight. Follow us on twitter illuminoflight is our nic there and on facebook illuminations of light. Come join our group pages and be the first to get announcements and updates on the show! Tell a friend! Mark the show to favorites as it is how we get rated on blogtalkradio! We love you all and love to hear how to make YOUR show better! Love n Light in Oneness of Heart, Kimberly

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