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Greetings and Salutations One and All! I hope the week has been a blessing for you all and that you enjoyed the energies that came in with the 10 10 10! Things are definitely accelerating. It’s been amazing to watch! This week on the show we have a legend joining us! Norman Shine! Internationally acclaimed numerologist and astrologer. This man will blow you away! He’s simply brilliant! You are going to want to have a pen and paper when you listen to this interview because he is gonna just come with it and give you some amazing techniques and answers. So let’s find out a bit more about this amazing man!

 

Norman Shine is an internationally acclaimed author for his books and techniques using astrology and numerology and magik boxes to determine all sorts of things in life! He is currently in Denmark and doing very well in his garden as you can see from the picture above. His books are, ” Numerology: Your Character and Future Revealed in Numbers” and ” Numerology: Reveal Your True Character and Destiny with Numbers” and also ” THE INSTANT NUMEROLOGIST” His unique technique is still studied today and we are honored to have him on the show!

Norman Shine has been a consultant numerologist and astrologer more than 15 years, following a distinguished academic career. He is much in demand as a public lecturer and as a radio and television broadcaster on both subjects, and has written successful books on numerology. He lives in Copenhagen, Denmark.

Tell me your name, and I will tell you who you are. Give me your date of birth, and I will show you your future.

The hidden meaning and power of numbers has been studied since ancient times. Just as astrologers use the planets and signs of the zodiac to explore relationships and predict the future, so do numerologists use numbers. Now, by following numerologist Norman Shine’s clearly illustrated, easy-to-understand system, anyone can access and use the energy and power of numbers.

Each letter of the alphabet has numerical value, and each number is an energy source. It is the way that these energies combine and relate to one another that determines how and why you behave the way you do; by comparing your numbers with another person’s, you can explore your relationship to them. Plot the numbers of your birthday, and you can see the direction of your future.

This article also appears online

August 27, 2004

Renowned numerologist Norman Shine launches book for India

Norman Shine, world renowned and arguably Europe’s best Numerologist launched his latest work in India. The book titled “The Divinity of Numbers: The SAlence of Numerology” published by Thapovanam Publishers was launched on Tuesday at Oxford Bookstore(Churchgate) in Mumbai.

The launch held at Oxford bookstore featured an interactive session conducted by Norman Shine titled “Knowing yourself better through Numerology”. Norman also highlighted his research and clear myths surrounding Numerology. The audiences availed of a personal consultation with the author. Mr. Rajiv Chowdhry, COO, e.books World Pvt. Ltd., which owns Oxford Bookstores, opines “Experience has proved that books on occult like numerology and astrology enjoy large readership in India, and with Norman’s popularity in Europe he is expected to be a big draw in India. It is a pleasure to have him with us at Oxford Bookstore.”

The book gives an in depth analysis and clears myths like “Changing names can change fortunes” among others that surround numerology in India. Says Raman Chaudhuri , Vice President, Thapovanam Publishers, “The book also has a interactive CD, which acts like personal numerologist for the reader. The reader can feed in his name and birthday date and get an in-depth analysis of his character and other relevant information like the important years in his life” .

Norman Shine’s association with India and its culture is deep rooted. An ardent devotee of Shree Satya Sai Baba , Norman is well versed in the symbolism of Indian culture: he firmly believes that the Vedas are the core essence of Numerology. Says Norman, “We are all here in this world for the sole purpose of resolving our karmas”.

Norman Shine has been a consultant numerologist and astrologer for more than 15 years, following a distinguished academic career. Norman Shine is without doubt the only numerologist in Scandinavia and among a very few in Europe to be known worldwide, where there are many astrologers, however only a handful of Numerologists. He is much in demand as a public lecturer and as a radio and television broadcaster on both subjects, and has written successful books on numerology.

Norman Shine virtually introduced Numerology to Denmark in the Early 1980’s. Through his books, written both in the Scandinavian languages and in English, are read widely throughout the world. His contribution as the only Numerologist in the “World Atlas of Divination”, a highly prestigious compendium of all the divination systems employed throughout the world, is evidence of the supreme position he enjoys globally within Numerology. Norman Shine is a lecturer on Numerology in the University of the Shankara Acharya at Kanchi and the University of Copenhagen.

Norman Shine’s book named “Numerology: Your Character and Future Revealed in Numbers” (1995) has sold over 5.5 lakh copies worldwide and has been translated to German, Spanish, Portuguese, Serbo-Croat, Czech, Hungarian, Polish. Norman Shine plans to start a School of Numerology called “The Shine Institute of Numerology” in Mumbai, in the coming year.

Source: http://www.indiainfoline.com/bize/renu.html

I do hope that you all will join us! If you submit your name and date and time and place of birth, we might be able to get Norman to evaluate them at illuminationsoflight@yahoo.com!

Be well everyone!

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Greetings and Salutations! One and All! It’s a Happy Day today! We are continuing our series on relationships with today’s entry discussing the crazy and intricate world of internet dating. I have been a part of this world for several years now and I have learned a few tips of the game which I am going to share with you here today. Also to enlighten you as to how the game is played. There are new rules to the dating game with the introduction of the technological world.

So you think you are ready right? You get your hair done up and your make up on and you go out and get the perfect picture or set of pictures and you post them on your profile just knowing in your heart that you are going to meet Prince Charming and you are going to be romanced out of your mind! Finally the long days of waiting are over and you are going to find your one and he is going to find you! The anticipation is crippling and you anxiously await some response from the one who is going to find you and you are met with ” Yummy” , ” Nice Tits” , ” You sure are purty” , and suddenly you realize you are not in the land of prince charmings but in the land of relationship rejects and applicants! There is someone for everyone I truly believe for some of us there are hundreds for one. I myself have been blessed with a gift of some odd sex appeal that keeps the men flocking in all shapes and forms and class levels.

I began to notice this gift when I was five, that is another story as to how I came to this realization but I have been aware of it since that age. I never felt comfortable with it, nor did I understand it back then, as no one seemed to want to discuss it let alone look at it with me. What this gift is many have. It’s tantric in nature, but healing in fact, it’s the ability to open hearts via the root chakra. This creates a feeling of love for the person on the receiving end. An undeniable attraction that will not quiet itself. They cannot get you out of their head, they are dreaming about you and having these unusual feelings of desire. The ones that make it to a kiss most end up being chiwawas shaking in their boots. The energy from the kiss was too much and they would go into shakes.

I often wonder as I am enduring these seemingly never ending lines of people that are so not in the running to being the perfect mate for me. Now some would argue, perhaps you have your sights too high. But you see I believe that on a vibratory level, I am not, I vibrate fairly high and am awake, there must be out of 6 billion people on this planet at least a few that have all of the qualities I seek . Then the universe does things like bring you the perfect person except that they are not available. The irony of the universe is uncanny at times.

So yes after several years in the dating game, I have begun to lose hope and energy to go through the process of interviewing the thousands of applicants I have reviewed in the past several years. This my friends is not an exaggeration. For every time I put up pictures there is usually a thousand hits in the month and for out of that thousand there is probably 10 a week that will make some attempt to contact you, out of that 10 you might actually want to meet with one. Dating has become more of an interviewing process. This is why I call them applicants. They are applying for the job of mate and they have to meet certain qualifications within the time that we have to chat. Most are easily gone through by simply telling them you are celibate, the others will leave if you tell them you want a relationship and marriage so this technique weeds through the one night stands and the looky loos. They are my favorites the silent watchers who add you as a favorite and never attempt to contact you ever. Who does that!?

Advice to catching a man, keep your profile interesting and always change your pics, guys are visual creatures and like to see new and different looks on a woman. No guy wants to hear about an ex or what you are not looking for so try to always keep it on a positive note.

Always remember that no matter how great they may seem on cam, in a private conversation or on the phone, unless you meet them face to face it is only a fantasy! I cannot stress enough this particular fact. It is easy when you are lonely to get wrapped up in the dream in the fantasy in the potential of a person. This is not to say that all are like this however the majority are. People think that they can be whatever they want as this box within a box doesn’t represent a person there an anonymity that goes along with this protection. People can be whatever they want when they are not being seen! There are many wolves in sheep’s clothing in the virtual world, people who will promise you the world, even propose to you infront of others and then simply disappear. They can lie about their names, their lives and what they truly are offering. Most men act like vultures when they are online. Most women too. The best advice that I can offer is to keep things light, to keep it business friendly until you meet this person face to face. Energies can and DO react differently in person, so until those same fireworks are there in real time, keep it realisitic to avoid disappointments down the line. Is this to say that internet dating is always like this? No but it’s important that you clearly communicate and investigate these people in real time. I have known of women who were raped and men who were ripped off financially because they did not follow this rule. Find out who you are dealing with. Meet in a public place for a first date always! Coffee shops or tea houses are great for the “initial interview”. I cannot tell you how often people walk out on this step, they won’t even approach you! I had one guy meet me at my house and walk right past me, get in his car and left! Another guy at the coffee shop the same thing! Manners is VERY important! If someone is going to take the time to meet with you, have the courtesy to follow through and let them know it is not going to work for whatever reason but at least follow through on the interview!

If you have any doubts then follow up on that! Find out either via investigation report going to public records there are ways to find out if someone is married or divorced, if they have a criminal record, basically the type of person they are in real time. If they do not want to meet after a month or so of email/phone communication that is usually an indication that there is something they are trying to hide. This is a flag so head that and look further then the butterflies in the heart.

Make sure that you see them on cam not just in photos. I had one friend who traveled from Oregon to Oklahoma based on a photo that had been taken 20 years before and when she got to the airport the person looked nothing like that anymore!

I know for most this seems like common sense stuff, but I have seen this enough to know that not everyone thinks like this because they inherently trust that most people are going to be what they say they are. I cannot tell you how many people I have watched and myself experienced how scandalous people can truly be, how they will prey on the innocent and create wounds that are to the core of people’s beings. I have also seen marriage work out even long distance ones from meeting on the net. It’s a roll of the dice and in today’s world anything is. I can only stress to be cautious and take precautions. Don’t meet alone, be in public, don’t give your home address to anyone you have not gone on several dates with and investigated thoroughly. Do not meet with anyone who will not show a picture or cam with you live. Run if they begin to discuss marriage and love within 30 days. This is usually an indicator that they are co dependent and clingy, watch the body language to determine if they are liars or secret keepers, this can get tricky because if a liar is good enough they will believe their own lies and thus making it difficult to recognize. Be friends with someone before you jump in the sack. Get to know them.

One night stands will only fulfill a physical itch and even that is not filled because it’s the intimacy not the sex we lack.

Do not get discouraged. Being on dating sites is not desperate. It’s business smart. You are increasing your odds by putting yourself out there. Just keep in mind the world is watching! People can video tape you on cam, they can steal your pics to be used in other arenas there are many bad people out there so use the better part of caution.

I’m sure there are many of you out there who have experienced much of what I am talking about and to you know that you are not alone, it is for those who may not have been out there in the jungle much and who have had trepidations about the unknown. Its really not too bad out there and I have met some incredible people and friends through the dating process. I have moved to totally new areas in the past 10 years and this has helped me get to know my community and the people in it and what it has to offer. I think that casual dating is healthy and can be a great deal of fun if one uses common sense and safety precautions.

I think this is a great place to stop this blog and ask you to submit your thoughts on this topic or your suggestions for how to make it a better experience for those who are in the game. Be blessed now and always everyone!

Peace xox Kimberly

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Greetings and Salutations One and All! I do hope this blog entry finds you all well and happy! We have  a tremendous show for you this week! Ms. Caitriona Reed will be joining us for the show this October 19, 2010! 9pm MST on blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight.

We thought we would give you a close up on this amazing lady and all that she is doing!

Caitríona Reed has been a facilitator of Personal and Organizational Change for more than twenty-five years. She facilitates workshops, retreats, and trainings internationally.

She integrates her lifelong work in Hypnosis, and as a Master Trainer of Neurological Repatterning and NLP, with her background in Deep Ecology, Global Process Work, and Zen. She received formal recognition as a Zen teacher from renowned Zen Master and Nobel nominee, Thich Nhat Hanh, in 1992.

She currently works as a catalyst of transformational change to help individuals, organizations and entrepreneurs towards thrive in a continually changing social, economic, and global environment.

She is co-founder of Manzanita Village Retreat, and the Five Changes Process. She lives with her partner of thirty years, Michele Benzamin-Miki, in Southern California.

She is author of The Thirty Pressing Questions, a year-long training curriculum integrating perspectives for personal change.

Here are the links to her various projects:

Manzanita Village

CaitrionaReed.com

Programs:

Choosing Personal Freedom

NLP Alchemy

Be sure to tune in for this very special show! Tuesday Night 9pm MST at www.blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight

Love n Light to One and All!

xo

Kimberly


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Greetings and salutations! One and All! I do hope this blog entry finds you well and happy. It has been a crazy week for me on a personal level as well as the professional level. But I wanted to keep the momentum going with this entry of our blog series on relationships. We have covered in past entries the ideas of co dependence and independence, however, we have never covered the idea of inter-dependence. This is a new term that I created to explain the concept of a partnership. These ideas that I am discussing are uni-sexual and universal. They can be applied to any relationship in existence. The reason that I feel it is necessary to create this new concept is that we are moving towards this with the shifts that are coming. How do we put action to making it “we” and not “me”. How do we take the first steps to becoming community minded again instead of overly independent and isolated?

I do not think that I have all the answers or all the parts but I can see how some of it can work. So I only ask that you read these ideas with an open mind and expand on them if you are so inspired and share those thoughts with the world. Leave a comment. I respond to all legitimate comments. So moving onto the concepts first.

Community to my definition is this: ” A gathering of beings working in harmony and cooperation with one another.”

I see this as the third phase if you will because really it begins within yourself and extends to your immediate friends and families and thus it naturally evolves to a community. There are many communities large and small. It’s not the size that matters in this instance. The idea behind a “community” is to work together in cooperation. Now this sounds really great in theory and in an ideal world that would work. It takes a solid commitment of common thinking to make something like this work. For example. Terminology. People as wonderfully different as they are will look at something and have a totally different take on what it is they see. The same idea holds true when they describe things. How often have you said to another person, “that’s not what I meant!” So definition of terms is imperative to healthy communication.

Cooperation: We have learned over the course of the past few millennia to be competative not cooperative with one another. In this shift which is coming there needs to be a cooperation between ourselves and the world around us. Money or it’s concept no longer serves us. I do not have all of the answers but what I do know is that there is no good reason that there are people who are lacking anything in this world. There is enough resources on this planet to sustain 100 billion people if we all worked together to balance that out.

Courtesy/Manners/Respect- People in this age of “Me”, have forgotten some very basic things in life. That people are people for one and for another, that we should treat others the way we would wish to be treated. With kindness, compassion, understanding, tolerance, respect. Words like ” I’m sorry” or “Thank you” or ” Please” go a long ways. Remembering that coming at someone offensively will cause the reactions of defensive manuevers. That a man’s word is golden, if you say you are going to do something then follow through with it, and if something should come up then communicate that with the person you made the promise to.

Communication: Talking, Texting, Writing letters, Computers, Telephones, Smoke signals. Throughout time man has found many creative ways to communicate what is in one’s head. From hieroglyphs to artwork of all kinds and music and story telling and tapestry to architecture and technology. We have found many ways to communicate with each other because we as human beings are communal creatures. We are social. We enjoy the interaction with others around us. We have lost the gift of mind reading which was our original forms of communication. We lost that ability when we fell into the third dimension. As part of the awakening and remembering, this gift is slowly being restored. Thus the words of Christ, “And the darkness shall come to the light, there will be no more secrets, no more lies…” because if we can read each other’s thoughts we have no way or place to “hide” anything. That is an illusion.

To live as two individuals, loving unconditionally in the present moment and working toward a common good is not an easy combination to find. There is a fine balance in inter-dependence. When you are in a partnership, the advantages are that you are not alone, if one falls short in an area the other can assist in making that up with their strengths. This is different then two people as one. We all have our paths and lessons in life. To release judgments and expectations can be a challenge for many. To release the need to control anything is also a challenge for most people. We do not realize how often we come from a place of needing to control people and situations. We must become cognoscente of these times when we are falling into emotional reactions and old programming. It is helpful if you are involved with another who is of like mind so that you may help each other in the recognition of when you are playing the old tapes. The old saying of ” You are the company you keep” holds some truth to it. For what you surround yourself with or feed into your mind is what is in your heart and eventually comes out of the mouth and it feeds like a perpetual circle. So the way to break free from this cycle is to change the response and change the environment and change the input in general. Surround yourself with things that are going to help you achieve your goal of peace and tranquility on a constant basis. Surrounding yourself with positive people is a start. Listening to soothing music instead of angry music is another place that we can change what we feed our brain. These are all things to help us remember that we are whole and secure within our freedom and do not require dependence but choose to be engaged in an inter-dependent , inter-active relationship.

When I first started to think about this whole idea, I went through the list of friends I had in my life. I really got honest about what it was I was gaining from having these people in my life. How have they served me and were there any there who didn’t serve me. I also had to make a decision about what was a friend to me. Applying the terminology again. I had determined that most of the people in my life were in fact NOT friends, but more acquaintances and business associates. That was a rude awakening for me. I had found that I was being a friend and giving more in the relationships then I was receiving and as a result I found that I was getting drained in my energies on a daily basis. When I made the choice to no longer allow the imbalances to take place, those people were taken out of my life, either by my own hand or by circumstance. I also had to work it as I have said earlier in this article, to just let things and people be what they are.

Here is an example. I recently had a guest who had forgotten to mark their appearance on our show, they subsequently didn’t make the appearance. Now, most people would have been hurt or insulted or upset, and I have to admit that I too would have been counted among those people a year ago. Instead my new reaction now was that all things happen for a reason and there are no accidents. This person had some place else to be and that was totally ok and things worked out in the end and so no harm no foul. This left both people feeling as if it was a win win situation. By choosing a different reaction, the response could have left a much more destructive and negative taste in both mouths. But by understanding that things happen, mistakes can be made and that it all works out in the end as it should anyway, to have that total faith that it will all be ok and that it is meant to be. Even when things do not work out in the way we had hoped it is usually for the better.

Not holding expectations on other people or their actions. Again the need to control. If you limit the universe in outcomes or if you place expectation then you are setting yourself up for instant disappointment. If you just go with the flow and not attach the outcome it usually works out better then you expected in your mind.This is much easier in theory then in practice. It takes great conscious effort to allow others to be and to BE yourself. To detach from the emotional body and to control the thoughts and to come from a place of peace. Too often we give too much of ourselves and things in relationships become unbalanced. There needs to be an exchange of energy on some level in a dualistic reality. In the oneness all just IS.

Can human beings achieve inter-dependence? Hard to say. I believe I have seen couples do this on occasion. To be independent, lead independent lives, but still be together. As ” The Profit” states. Like two pillars holding things up, but standing separately, both eat bread but not of the same loaf. To find that balance where two can be in sanctuary and not in a place of beholden or fear. I believe that we have to come to a place of humility and a willingness to work with others in realizing that many hands make less work, but all parties must be willing to do their part. One’s input doesn’t have to be the same work, but a portion of it.

Some interesting musings on inter-dependence and partnerships. What are your thoughts?

Until next time, in Love n Light and Oneness of Heart,

xoxo

Kimberly


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Greetings and Salutations! One and All! I do hope the week has been a splendid one for you! We have had an amazing week so far and it’s still going! Jim Dreaver joins us tonight! 9pm MST on blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight! He is simply fantastic! Jim is going to be talking about his books and his techniques tonight!

We wanted to share a bit about Jim in his own words…..

 

About Jim

Jim, a native of New Zealand, was on a spiritual journey for twenty years before finally waking up to his true nature. His teacher was European Advaita master Jean Klein. His gift is being able to quickly bring people into a state of presence, where they can experience the sense of freedom and love inside them. Jim, who now lives in Los Angeles after many years in northern California, has taught his work at a number of venues, including Esalen Institute.

In addition to his new book, Falling into Light, he is also the author of End Your Story, Begin Your Life, the revolutionary practice that sets you free; The Way of Harmony (Avon); a practical guide to integrating awakened consciousness into work, relationships, and daily life, and The Ultimate Cure: The Healing Energy Within You (Llewellyn), which focuses on accessing the deep spiritual energy that is the source of all healing.

During his time as a doctor of chiropractic, he also authored Somatic Technique: A Simplified Method of Releasing Chronically Tight Muscles and Enhancing Mind/Body Awareness.This illustrated manual continues to be popular with chiropractors, physical therapists, and massage therapists worldwide.

In the Introduction to End Your Story, Begin Your Life, he writes:

The teaching and the practice making up the heart of this book come directly out of my own experience as a seeker of truth. I was on a spiritual journey for twenty years, seeking enlightenment, or inner freedom.

Then, in the spring of 1995, my seeking came to an end when I finally realized my true nature. I have been at peace, free of conflict and suffering, ever since. If you want to know my story, the story of how I came to the understanding that I am not my story, you can read it in the Appendix at the end of this book…

I have written this book (because)… If you absorb the teaching in these pages, and learn to do the practice every time you experience emotional conflict, upset, or suffering, you will yourself awaken to freedom, to the inner peace that does not depend on circumstances, much, much quicker than I did. As an example of how this can happen, read Juliana Dahl’s story at the beginning of Chapter One. She is the mother of four children, and awakened to her true nature just three short years after we met…”

The teaching and the practice making up the heart of this book come directly out of my own experience as a seeker of truth. I was on a spiritual journey for twenty years, seeking enlightenment, or inner freedom. Then, in the spring of 1995, my seeking came to an end when I finally realized my true nature. I have been at peace, free of conflict and suffering, ever since. The main elements of my own story, the story of how I came to the understanding that I am not my story, are in this book…

If you absorb the teaching in these pages, and learn to do the practice every time you experience emotional conflict, upset, or suffering, you will yourself awaken to freedom, to the inner peace that does not depend on circumstances, much, much quicker than I did. As an example of how this can happen, read Juliana Dahl’s story at the beginning of Chapter One. She is the mother of four children, and awakened to her true nature just three short years after we met.

The teaching itself is simple. It is to grasp that while we are a story-telling people, the stories we tell come and go, they change, but we, in our essence, are always here. We, as the pure awareness that sees and knows are still here, still looking through our eyes, sensing with our body, feeling with our heart and gut. Realizing we are that which is always present, and not the thought or story, which is ever-changing, is to be awake and free.”

TO ORDER JIM’S BOOKS OR FIND OUT MORE ABOUT HIS SERVICES CLICK HERE.

Here’s a few YouTube clips featuring Jim…..

A Bridging Heaven & Earth interview….

A Bit of a more personal flavor of Jim….

Be sure to tune into the show tonight! Love n Light everyone! xox Kimberly

 

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Greetings and Salutations One and All! I do hope the weekend has been a grand one for you all! Today we have an amazing show for you! A very special 3 hour special show tonight! The 10-10-10 Unity Show! With special guest appearances by Peggy Black and Nicole Lanning and Rev Michelle Coutant and Ginger with Galexis giving a message and Shari Faerman and Joshua James and many many more! Be sure to tune in 6pm MST on blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight!

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Greetings and Salutations! One and All! Well I hope you were able to tune into our show tonight! If not, you can always catch the entire interview in our archives at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/illuminationsoflight.

As promised here is the second entry in our month on relationships! And our very own miss Petite Lion is going to share with all of us what she believes is the Secret to Success in Lasting Relationships.

When I started to write this blog I already had the basics that I wanted to write about, the points that I wanted to include on this aspect of relationships. I have formulated in my mind that the first thing that I felt I wanted to make clear about relationships is an understanding that relationships were more than just love, lust, friendship etc., that when people say they are “in love” or that they have found “someone” that they wanted to be married to or that they want “grow old ” with, have a  “life relationship or Partner” or  are looking for  potential life relationship candidates, these are all only parts of “one” thing. Really their understanding of what that one thing  is and what that involves is less than complete . This lack of a true understanding of what it is they want, and what to call it, you may say to what  it is I said in my last statement, ; on the surface it may see m that is what I am eluding to a confusion in meaning is just something that really has no substance that it is just about a confusion due to semantics, but it is more than a pronunciation or the way a statement is worded it is about the complete whole picture of what it takes to make something work correctly, missing a wheel on a wagon it does not function properly if an integral  part of its components is not there.  Let me clarify. I think that people are not seeing the big picture of what it is that they truly want and all that it requires to work, they seem to focus on one or two of the components or sub-components of the picture of what they want. That they are focusing on certain parts of the whole  and those parts although important and desirous are not all of what it takes to work right unfortunately the only reason they want the relationship with a person is that the part that they can fulfill addresses issues, or fears, physical wants and/desires that at the moment is in the fore front of there mind. with no thought to the bigger picture . I’m not saying they don’t want more than those forefront thought  (majority will say if given the broader scope that the relationship is offering – heck yes that is what I want! ) what I’m saying is that until someone gets the “understanding’ the big scope or picture of what really a relationship encompasses and the skill sets it involves they are selling themselves and the significant  short, they are sending out incomplete or cloudy picture of what they want out into the universe. Which as anyone who has read about manifesting or “getting what they want, or changing old programs paradigms to manifest their dreams of a better life or reality”.(. What many books etc like  “As a Man Thinketh”, “The Secret”  tell us is a main important step to manifest your needs and desires thru their “step by step how to’s to  manifest  or to change  things for the better in our lives) A  clear  and complete picture of what you want is  a  very critical and  necessary part to achieving your perception of happiness or contentment to fulfilling your dreams, or what it would take to complete the list of what needs you feel  it would take to choose  happiness the easiest . (Note here, happiness isn’t something you find or put together, it is an emotion you choose to feel , our emotions are ours for us to use not the other way, we are not our emotions, our emotions do not own us, we own them , people and things or the lack thereof or situations and outcomes, old programming may make it more difficult   to choose happiness, contentment, joy and so forth .but. nonetheless we choose what to feel at any given moment .  I never said that the choice was always going to be easiest skill set to master at this moment in humanity’s existence, but ,that planting the seed of a change of perspective , the clarity the understanding is the initial and the most integral part to master that skill set or whatever skill set you to master.)  Now back to the business at hand! Just as I just planted the seed of a change in perspective for those that didn’t have the understanding  with regards to happiness thing I  just mentioned, I feel it is necessary to plant the seed of complete understanding and the true definition or the big picture of what relationship means. Once that is clarified ,for some you out there , (and you will know very quickly who you are) will get an automatic shift in consciousness , an epiphany and it will have an almost seemingly immediate  effect on the relationship area of your lives. What that means or entails is an individual  personal  thing, but the long term result is very positive. It will either motivate you to change what your responses within a current relationship are, or you  will choose to change it  totally for another more suitable one or it will give you a more complete and accurate picture to  hold to  so that what  you picture and desire to manifest in your life for your relationship comes to you is  really complete and accurate, that it is real deal for you, rather than close but no cigar type of thing or that the understanding  is able to take away the blinders away from your minds eye then you might be able figure out why you seem to be still in a toxic and/or abusive (physically and/or mentally) relationship  or keep picking the same types of partners and situations that bring you the disastrous or less than good results that after awhile you   cant understand why you end up always feeling stuck or trapped , really have the most difficult to choose happiness, as I said there are many , many things that the simple clarification that I’m going to share in this blog  that will  positively alter the relationship area  of your life in some way for the better or at least find the path to change , and no matter what, I am confident to ,say  all of them the end result will be positive . Now as I said this simple explanation of the true nature of what a relationship is with regards to ” marriage, life  sharing etc.” types of relationships will for some ,give you the instant shift, for others it will alter slightly the road that they are on, that in time will be the lick that gets them there, and for others at least it will expand and hone list of  choices that their brain or being has to choose from when they are stuck with what to do and why the problem happened. (the seed).

I know , long intro, but I needed to know that I did everything to make it clear to as many people to as many perceptions of reality as I could.  Now I will share the bit of wisdom that was given to me to share. I attained it thru many agonizing moments  of my 51 years of this life of taking ” wrong turns at Albuquerque ” in relationships. In other words I did things all the wrong ways for all the wrong reasons that thru process of elimination (and God and the universe took pity on me LOL!)  I had this major dot to dot that was completed, an epiphany , a gift of wisdom, divine clarification, I had a “should of had a V8” moment whatever you want to call it. It was so significant for me and such a gift that I felt so much  gratitude for that gift that it was very important and not just to me ,that  I wanted I needed to give someone else ,share the pleasure, of that wondrous gift from Spirit that I received I also knew I craved  to experience that rush that this epiphany gave me again, thru giving it , sharing it,  with my fellow human beings that were struggling and suffering as I had been  with this area.  To give a ray of hope to others that having the possibility of fulfilling that sought after dream was  still breathing, it was still attainable that all was not lost that you still as Kahlil Glbrane says so eloquently in “The Prophet” That the possibility of “laughing with all your laughter  weeping with all your tears ” is still on the table.
So here is the big TA DA HERE IT IS!!!!! DRUM ROLL PLEASE!!  THE SURVEY SAYS!!!………….. That when people say ,”I Love you” that is only part of what or is only one of the skill sets that you must have to have the possibility to experience a functioning long lasting whole harmonious relationship that humans have been seeking en masse since the beginning of time. There may slight adjustments or personalization’s to achieve that each partnership make need to make individually friendly, but, the basic” have to”   that are non negotiable items to even achieving the possibility of having a shot at that is, that you MUST be aware ,that to know the meaning of true love and what that skill set entails plus the meaning of true friendship and what that skill set entails and (here is the one that is the one that most people forget and/or try to lump it in with friendship as t he heading, actually ,it is the other way around , that friendship in this instance, should actually be listed as a component of partnership . I include this for those who really need that friendship word in there, it is important but it is under partnership heading.) the other main part of the formula for a true lasting relationship for life is true partnership , besides love skill set we need be aware  what requirements that skill set entails ; these are the main skill sets that is essential that you and the other person you choose must have to have the complete picture of what a successful life relationship requires (please read this last bit several times as it with a strong emphasis on must !!!).
Here is where I will briefly break down the skill  sets and why they are “must haves” when you desire life relationships that work etc. First of all I will explain the skill set of the love that is required for the formula I speak of . The billions of people out there that are made in the “image and likeness of the Creator” made of the stuff of the Creator, the sons and daughters of God that we all are that those billions are, have so to speak  the ability to love hard wired into us or that is included in the general construct of human beings. Now remember that sometimes due to one reason or another some sort of glitch happens or a personal choice is made that certain individuals don’t develop that  hard wired ability into any real functioning skill set . When I speak about humans having a natural instinctual desire and ability to give and love  I am speaking of the average human, they have innate ability built in to give and receive love , wether they choose or  develop the skill set of the kind of love required to carry out a functioning life relationship that is an individual thing and under certain circumstances there really is no choice they were born disabled in that area. After saying that , Imagine this, say you are all good and the ability has been developed and you have made it and have mastered that skill set  to love giving and the receiving of it , that is only that only one part of the essential parts that is needed and really it proportion as opposed to the other skill set is not equal, it is more love 40% and partnership is 60% (and here is what poets and people thru get caught up and have misled  the masses to believe and  understand that love is all that it takes.) It  is even in songs like  Lennon’s “All you need is love” well that may be true i n a bigger scale as a people or unite the planet the species, but it is simply in error , not true, with regards to life relationships and what it takes  to make it be a success although very integral part for it to work , just love  is not going to cut it.  What is required almost more so right from start is the skill set of Partnership. Love can be acquired after or it can grow with time and patience and a good partnership ability ,it can be  developed or perhaps be transformed from other lesser than feelings thru nurturing  and compassion understanding , tolerance, forgiveness that partnership brings to the table.  The  real true thing that people are desirous of  that people attribute solely to love is really the guts of it all  the most lasting and successful life relationships is partnership, love completes the dream makes it go to its highest and best and gives you that motivation to practice and continue to practice and use your skill sets so that they perform at their optimum and gain their optimum potential so that you are able to achieve optimum performance and satisfaction out of life relationships.  I will give you more of a real life example of this, When people make a commitment to a life relationship such as marriage, unfortunately a lot of the time what happens we get up in front of a bunch of people that are important to us and we enter into a verbal and written and witnessed contract that most of the time sounds more like some love sonnet or poorly written poem or speech  that at the time we have gotten all caught some either an arrangement made by others who really do not have the two parties that are actually having to live this contract in mind  or as it is for most cultures in world  now days they get caught up in some sort of lustful and/or  ooey gooey fairy tail naive  or fear based  perception or reason for making this contract. The words that they vow to each other whether sonnet like or  common marriage speech  the commitment the contract is lost on the two making the commitment ,  it is done without a complete understanding knowledge or education  of what they are really vowing to do  and what they are actually agreeing to. They are really not owning what it is that they are agreeing to have the skills that it requires. Even people who wouldn’t lie or make promises that won’t keep if their life depended on it or enter into the simplest contract for trivial things without a lot research and thought have no problem with doing this, Yes,  like it or not and I am just as guilty of this myself  …making a commitment to be in a life relationship without knowledge or the skill  or understanding and without truly having the right intent is a lie . I know that sounds evil but its not its just one o f those weird human idiosyncratic  oxy moronic things that humans do. So don’t beat yourself up for it this , I’m letting in on this bit just for perspective sake… really there is no judgement about it so don’t go there. Nonetheless because of this lack of seeing the whole picture and understanding what skill sets are required to this formula as you know leads to disaster namely high rates of divorce and you know the pervasive results to that little gem. The other part of the picture is people that are in the process of sorting thru candidates for this life relationship because they are not knowledgeable of the required parameters that the formula requires they pair up or choose partners that may have the love skill set but have no desire to use or be a partner to the other, they are willing to receive the love have their other be a partner but are only to either go thru the motions of the love or hit with reciprocal lust in such a way and with the right timing t hat the other are fooled and believe love is being returned in kind and the partnership is just skipped on over.  Another scenario that happens is that the lust or sexual compatibility is there big time and/or one or more of the parties fulfill in some issue that gives the person some unreality based solution to the issue or it is fulfilling some dependent co dependent beliefs that is  programing that we bought into or relieve some fear based thing that we have bought into. I could go on with the scenarios but I think you smell what I am stepping in here.  Partnership is not just friendship or saying or vowing to be a partner it is one that takes constant awareness , consideration  and work and even though it takes that much the reward is well worth it in a million ways so many I wouldn’t have the time or the paper etc to do it. Partnership means that when you make plans or commitments or decide to change jobs change beliefs that instead of just thinking in terms of me or I that what you do or decide or effects you effects the other person and their life  that the thought process MUST always be  a “we” prospective. That you no longer think in the terms that has been with you since birth that when making the decisions about your life your wants desires  and that it all about you instead  you must always think in the we terms that when making those choices that as a partner and being partner requires you to discuss communicate and validate the others concerns and opinions and keep the other persons needs and wants and welfare when you do things. Even though you must think in “we” terms , you are still individuals and that partnership is not 50% and 50% it is 100% and 100% two whole people not two half people, understand that you are still able to keep your individual self for even though you are in a partnership you  must let the winds of heaven bl ow between you again from “The Prophet” and Kahlil Gabran eloquent words  ”

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
Bottom line when people do not understand that Love is not the  only thing that in this instance Love is not all we need to consider. That the person we choose to commit to or that we should consider as a potential life partner we must not settle for less. We must know and be willing to use as well as require in our life partners the skill sets of partnership and of love for  our life relationships and not settle for anything less in our selves or our significant others. I will hopefully in this series go into the details in more depth what Love  and Partnership are composed of but I hope that you take the time and the effort to process the wisdom that I was given that I have passed on to you  today because I know that it has helped me to be a little better of person and expanded my discernment to choose better that the aspect of the divine that is experiencing itself  that I have been privileged to be , that I am , at this moment and the gift of this bit of understanding  that Spirit  bestowed on me for my soul growth and expansion has helped become a step better brighten the path so that I can walk and stumble less get lost less than I did before. Please if you should find this a gift as I did please do not thank me just pass it on, for if it makes one person better raise their vibration it does so for all.

Thanks for letting me share….hopefully it will help in some small way….many blessings! xoxo Lianna aka The Petite Lion

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